Recently, we had a dispute with friends on this topic. Opinions of the participants of the discussion were divided approximately equally. The only thing we agreed on was that without a proper upbringing, even a born leader is unlikely to remain at an older age.
Today I would like to reflect on this topic and know your point of view, dear participants Alimero.
There are several myths on this subject, each of which can be dispelled. So, many believe that once a child was born under the sign of Leo, then he certainly has leadership skills. Honestly, I know quite a bit of Lviv, and their characters are so different that I don’t believe in this sign.
Also, many believe that the eldest child usually grows leader. Especially if the family has more than two children. Again, more than once I have seen families in which everything is the opposite. A similar situation with the expression of the only child in the family grows up selfish. For example, my husband grew up in a large family, which did not prevent him from becoming a high-level egoist;)
It seems to me that some children are born with certain leadership skills. It is like character and temperament – all people are different, someone is more emotional, someone is calm, and someone has a tendency to lead. But without proper upbringing there will be no sense from these qualities.
Leader can be raised
There are many methods of education, in which attention is focused on leadership qualities. Thus, at the presentation of the curriculum in the daughter school, the director said several times that one of its areas was to bring up leadership qualities for all students.
On the other hand, out of thirty students, all thirty will not be able to become clear-cut leaders. This is where the innate personality characteristics of the child matter.
It is not necessary to shift such a crucial moment to educators and teachers. It depends on the parents – whether leadership skills will develop, or they will disappear. Sometimes we, by the most innocuous phrases, kill the leader in a child. All of these you do not succeed, you can not cope, let me do it myself and they should not say such phrases to children.
After all, for our children we are the main authority and critic. It is from our support, evaluation and reaction depends on the child’s worldview. However, you should decide in advance on what you mean by the concept of a leader.
This is not one who is stronger than others physically, and can force others to follow him. The real leader is the one that the team follows in good faith; this is a purposeful, sociable, confident, successful and active person.
Frankly, I somehow did not think about how to purposefully raise the leader from the daughter. But I cannot fail to note the fact that she still has certain leadership skills.
Previously, it was not so noticeable, but now, when she is almost six years old, I constantly observe how she is the organizer of the majority of games with her peers. What is important is not pranks or self-indulgence, but thoughtful entertainment scenarios that friends like.
Another leadership quality is the lack of fear of public speaking, the ability to easily find a common language with peers (even strangers), the ability to resolve conflict situations (sometimes the daughter even runs to reconcile other children, although she did not participate in the conflict).
Many people believe that a leader should certainly show good academic results. Here, I would argue – in this case, much more important is the right motivation, diverse interests, the desire to acquire new knowledge, etc. Yes, a leader can be an excellent student, but not every excellent student is a leader. For example, in our school, clear leaders were far from being excellent students, but despite this, they were respected in the team and now have built a rather successful career.
I absolutely do not mind my child growing up as a leader, but this is not the main purpose of my upbringing. Simply, all the principles that I follow are at the same time those that contribute to supporting leadership skills.
Do you think leaders are born or become?