– Daughter, wash the dishes …
– Son, take the toys away …
And what’s the answer? Either silence or excuses, one another more interesting. Why are they lazy? Let’s figure it out.
My son is still small, so all that he can do by himself is to remove the toys behind him. True, he is happy to help me or my dad. I clean, say, in the house, he already carries a broom or pulls a mop. Papa tears grass to piglets, and the son is already there, it helps.
But with my daughter business is very different. To persuade her to do at least something around the house, sometimes she leaves the whole day, and there are so many nerves! I just recently realized what mistake I made 9 years ago. She was only 2 years old then, and she watched my work with interest. I tried to do something myself, but I was so sorry to bother her …
So she understood that you can safely watch TV, and all the work will be done by mom.
Why are they lazy?
Reason 1 – character. Of course, this must be taken into account in the process of education. There are kids sociable and playful, assiduity for which is an incredible test. And there are – dreamers, soaring in the clouds. It is very difficult for such kids to concentrate on one task.
Reason 2 – congestion. Think about it, but not many of your child’s daily activities. Does he attend extra mugs or sections? Of course, we want the children to grow comprehensively developed, but then they also need time for physical inactivity. At this time, they do not just sort out toys or watch cartoons, they rethink all the information received in a day.
Reason 3 – low self-esteem. But parents are to blame. It is worthwhile for the child to do the task not perfectly, as he immediately receives a portion of criticism. The worst thing is the phrase: Well, what are you? Here is Petenka from a neighboring house …. It is not surprising that after such words the kid will try not to do anything at all than to do something wrong.
And how to be parents?
Swap! Yes, yes, this is not a typo. We are older, wiser. We can help our kids not to turn into a belorushek and great idlers. Motivation is the basis for the success of any undertaking. Blurred phrase – Take it away at least somewhere, change it to a more specific one – Put down your clothes. And you do not need to demand immediate execution – respect the kid, give him time to finish the game.
Do not rush to do yourself what the child should do. He has to see – the work itself will not be accomplished …. And when it’s done, do not skimp on the praise. One word well done is not enough. Well, of course, reward. Removed dirty laundry – great, there is time for hanging out.
What is obligatory for us adults and is not subject to discussion, raises a lot of questions and heaps of doubts in a child. With the right upbringing and reliable support, toddlers can be successful and hardworking in the future.
Do your kids help you?