Do I give the child to kindergarten? And if you give, at what age? And if not, why not? What is a kindergarten – a structure necessary for a child or a breeding ground for sores, aggression, offenses? How many copies are broken on this topic. Break a little more 🙂
I just want to say that I do not pretend to the ultimate truth, I just want to share my experience as a mother of a three year old son. In one of the articles I wrote that we were very lucky with kindergarten (good teacher, tasty food, etc.), but there is no ideal in the world, otherwise it would be monotonous and boring. All the beauty, as you know, in the differences.
For me there was no question – to give the child to kindergarten or not. To give unequivocally, because the situation is such that mom needs to work to earn a denyuzhku. To fly on a plane with suitcases to the park, to visit the squirrels, as my son says. That is, the comrade clearly knows that his mother does not just go there to get rid of, but because there is a holy goal ahead. For both is holy.
I emphasize this on purpose, because it is very important that the child knows the need for this measure, if it so happens that he needs to walk in the garden. My son knows quite clearly that we go to the garden and to work for five days (that is, we all work), and then we have two days off. And if suddenly some kind of hitch begins with I don’t want to go to kindergarten, then a logical chain unfolds, which ends with the fact that then we don’t end up doing what he wants. In our case, this is a plane with suitcases 🙂
They are always sick there!
A very common opinion. However, so erroneous. There are no typhus and tuberculosis in the garden, there is just another microflora, different from the child’s habitual one, and he needs to adapt to it like any other environment. And how many gardens or mine, it does not erode, it is already sitting in the walls. No wonder that from time to time the premises are given to other institutions so that all this microflora is derived simply by time and changing visitors.
Snot and cough – this is the body’s reaction to a foreign one. So the mucous removes from the children’s body everything that he does not need there. In the first weeks it is inevitable, but then everything depends on you. If you were able to provide your child with good immunity, then he will no longer be sick. If his immunity is flimsy, then it doesn’t matter here – you took him to the garden, to the playground, or to the store. He will catch the infection in any public place.
The exceptions are those sores that pierce immunity one way or another. For example, the flu. But this, I’m sorry, and adults from the street can bring home, and even get sick. Also sores such as chickenpox, rubella, etc. However, it is worth remembering that such sores are better to have a pain in childhood, because the children’s body can tolerate them much more easily than an adult. Many mothers even ask for a visit to the sick chickenpox, so that their child has had it and that’s it.
Garden is child socialization in society, the development of independence, communication skills and self-service.
All that he could not do at home (or did not want to, yes), he will succeed in the garden. Because there are a dozen more kids around who do the same thing and by their example show how to. And vice versa, if the child is able, and someone is not, then the one who is able can show and teach the other how to. It would seem a trifle, but how important!
After the first day in the garden, my son came home and taught me to look at himself 🙂 Not because I don’t know how to do this, naturally, but because I had to share this important knowledge and skill with someone.
You just do not be offended, but no mother plays with such passion and inspiration as a peer, fellow party 🙂 And this does not mean that mom is bad or does not know how, no, even if she can and does her best, but mom is mom. It is different, it already has its own views and ideologies, its principles and concepts, as it should. Naivety and innocence of knowledge of the world has disappeared.
And if in a year except for mom no one is needed, then by 3 years it turns out that peers can be much more interesting. Here it will occur to you that the snow outside the window is a ghoul on a sled flying? 🙂 And they will come! And they will play it! How? It is only they who know.
Of course, in any case there are downsides.
As long as the child does not get used to the garden, it is unlikely that you will be able to work normally – the hospital and the hospital. Not every employer will be delighted, frankly. On the other hand, in life there are always some inalienable things that you have to put up with 🙂
Second moment. Your wonderful, well-mannered and positive child from all sides comes from the garden and gives you not only new skills that you are pleased with, but also all sorts of things that he learned from his peers and why you don’t caress him on the head. We have to bring up anew – the baby-son came to the father and asked the crumb.
On the other hand, it is like a vaccine or the same chicken pox – having had this before as a child, for school the child will already clearly know all the facets of the behavior that is permitted and punishable. Moral: any phenomenon has two sides, like a coin. It is important that the positive side prevails, and you know how to correct the negative.
I wish everyone who leads the kids into the garden so that your positive side is at least 80% of the total variations 🙂 By the way, there are children who go to the garden with joy and even ask for weekends. I have such a cousin. At home he was bored among adults, and he has friends in the garden, do you understand 🙂