I remember the words of my sister-in-law about my four-year-old grandson: Now, finally, we can agree with him. My son is not even two and a half. Well, wait, how happy, when he will be four? Age, of course, difficult. But also so cool! I think that two or three years is the happiest time for parents.
The child begins to speak, becomes more independent and very often makes adults laugh. But the whims of a two-year-old child has not been canceled. Fortunately, sometimes we manage to come to an agreement with us.
The child, even the smallest, deserves respect. Therefore, instead of trying to force him to drag him home from the playground, make him go to bed when he plays an interesting game or keep him from drawing to go for a walk, it is better to warn him in advance.
We have, for example, already with might and main working for the last time. Who thinks that it is better to say extreme, it is possible and so 🙂 If the son rolls down a hill, and we have to leave, I tell him that everything, now he will eat again, and we leave.
Surprisingly, it works. True, he happens to begin to take the initiative upon himself and, after having moved out, he tells me himself: Last time. In that case, I am making a concession. But, after moving out – that’s it, let’s go home.
5 more minutes
Sometimes I warn him: we will play for another five minutes and go to bed. Of course, a two-year-old child does not yet have a temporary concept, but he will understand that it is time to round out.
With a child of this age, it is necessary to exercise firmness. By his behavior, he sometimes seems to tell his parents: Be firm with me, do not follow me, because you know better what I need.
Yesterday, when my son was watching cartoons, I warned him that we would soon go to the bathroom. He suddenly began to resist. I calmly, but firmly stood my ground. My son instantly calmed down, as if he was testing me for strength.
First one, then another
Until you eat the soup, you will not get candy – I told him firmly recently, because it was lunch time. And even though the son was configured for candy as firmly, he began to eat soup, and he also asked for supplements. Of course, I gave him some sweets and tea 🙂
Often children are naughty, because they just miss our attention. Therefore, in order to make it easier to negotiate with the child, we must pay attention to him not only when he behaves badly. Sometimes capricious behavior can be prevented at the very beginning, saying fun to the child: Now I will catch you!
And that’s all: the mood scale dramatically crawled upwards, the atmosphere was warm and friendly, the contract was signed with the mutual consent of the parties!
How do you negotiate with your child?