In the kindergarten I worked in, I was able to get a lot of experience observing children in order to understand their psychology and possible solutions to problems. One of these problems – stronger guys tease, while others are silent and do not know how to be.
Usually, adults enter into such a struggle between individuals, to once again say to the abuser: You can’t do that!, But this only aggravates the situation. What to do if your child is teased? Learn to understand the root cause of the situation in order to find the possibility of overcoming an unpleasant situation.
The root cause of a situation when your child is being teased is his low self-esteem. A confident child will never allow himself to be joking or laughing, because he will know that this is not true. A confident child will be able to prove the opposite point of view, he will not be afraid to argue and receive as a result (or give change).
Uncertain children react to ridicule in a completely different way. Instead of refuting ridicule, they begin to think about their correctness. An unsure child will not be able to prove another point of view, because he will be unsure of the correctness of his thoughts.
The worst thing that can happen to a child is when he reconciles himself to the fact that it is normal if he is teased. A hunted look, full of resentment for fear – the result of such addiction. In kindergarten you can notice this look. When such a child just crosses the threshold of the kindergarten, he is ready to listen to offensive words.
How can you help these kids?
To stop being a home for them is a waistcoat that listens to all the offensive words that have been told to the child today. Raise more confidence in a child, because he deserves to be respected. Do you respect your child? After all, often it all starts with a family!
When you stop listening to children’s pity, you help build confidence in him to speak out to the abuser, and not to you, albeit in a more aggressive way. This is much better than being hunted by a beast.
The child can train with his toys to give verbal resistance. You can teach to tease and your child, then he will know what to say when meeting with offenders and will be stronger and more morally prepared.
You are above it – so they told me in childhood, when they started teasing me in kindergarten. I was sure that I was above listening to hurtful words and just turned around and left. This is also better than standing, enduring and reflecting on the meaning of ridicule and teasing (Why am I ?, Maybe I really am ?, I am worse than everyone else). There is no need to listen to teasers and put off insults in your soul, you need to be more confident to do something.
The task of parents whose children are teased is to teach them to be confident. Each child is individual and there is no optimal way to develop confidence, but you will find it if you love your baby very much. The main thing you need to remember: if you are tired of listening to constant complaints about new offenses from your peers, then you need to help your child – to develop his inner strength.