All children are different, someone is more active, someone is calm. And if the temperament is not always possible to influence, then such qualities as good manners, behaviors – almost always depend on the parents, their principles and behavior in general.
In each team, be it a kindergarten group or a company on the playground, there are children who are more aggressive, pugnacious than the others. And when such babies contact your child, I want this communication not to end badly for your children.
Do not distract the attention of the child from the fighter, it seems to me that on the contrary, it should be noted the incorrectness of such behavior. But remember, in no case can you say that the child is bad. Do not forget that it is necessary to evaluate actions, not children!
Worse can only be the adverbral announcement of the label, something like Look, there is a boy-ham (fighter, pestilence, etc.). So you will only achieve that the child will try to match this label.
The best option would be if you explain to your child that the baby behaves ugly, that it is impossible to behave this way.
Undoubtedly, your own child is always right. However, in conflicts it is important to identify their true cause. Do not forget that you can offend not only physically.
For example, once a serious fight ensued on the set between two boys – a fragile bespectacled man and his cocky comrade. Mom, who was accustomed to her son’s absurd nature, began to scold him, and then it turned out that the fight had been triggered by a quiet man – he called names and misbehaved in every way until the opponent’s patience was exhausted.
If it came to physical impact, then do not hesitate. Making sure that your child is innocent (that is, that he didn’t get what he deserved), clearly and strictly tell the culprit that you can’t fight and you don’t allow you to treat your child in this way.
It is important for the child to know that he is under the reliable protection of his parents, who can always be contacted and who will not refuse to help. Therefore, do not forget that the baby should be under your constant supervision. May you not always be directly near, but you must keep the child in your field of vision.
They should be permanent, from early childhood, explain that without demand you cannot take other people’s things, if you took them, they should be returned at the first request of the owner.
Closer to four years, children should be given the opportunity to negotiate on their own. They are quite capable of offering exchange or agree amicably. However, if it comes to fighting and words do not help, explain that parents should pay attention to the situation.
Although there is a different opinion of some moms, but I believe that boys should be brought up on the principle of offending girls and beating them. And for me it is very strange that some mothers (!) Sons think otherwise. One of my friends explained that she did not agree with this rule, that if a man is wrong, then his gender does not matter and in general, there are women who deserve such an attitude towards themselves.
The easiest way to avoid conflict and injury is to leave the battlefield. But he is not the best, because you won’t be able to change the site that is usual for a walk after the first fight in the sandbox or in a hurry to look for a new kindergarten if something happens.
In no case should not scold the child for a fight, because it is fraught with the fact that he will hide from you such events. The surest thing to do is to stop the fight, find out the reason, conduct an educational conversation with the culprit or his parents.
And how do you react to the fighting children?