By the age of two or three, the baby slowly begins to realize itself as a unit of society, company, family and its place in this society. There is a category of children who, by virtue of their upbringing and personal qualities, consider that they are the navel of the earth and the earth ball is spinning only for them. Is it good or bad? Let’s try to figure it out.
Someone has a main dad, someone has a mom, and someone has universal equality. However, I confess honestly, I have never seen a family in which the child is the main one. Yes, the desire to win the position of a leader is, but it does not end with success.
Take, for example, the animals to which man, by the way, belongs. Are there flocks in which the role of leader is played by the child? Not.
Of course, you should not stop absolutely all attempts of the child to make decisions. In order for the kid not to feel infringed on his rights (which is fraught with a decrease in self-esteem and the appearance of complexes), define for him a range of certain duties, give simple instructions more often, sometimes consult with him.
However, it is worth explaining once and for all to the child who is in charge of the family, and that this fact is not negotiable. You should also clearly discuss the hierarchy in the family. For example, the Pope is more important than the mother, and the mother is more important than the child.
How to relate to the desire of a child to command in a group of peers at a playground or in kindergarten is a personal matter. I believe that leadership ambitions should not be suppressed, because it develops self-confidence, organizational skills, and increases self-esteem.
It is necessary to distinguish the leader from the dictator. I remember in my group in kindergarten there was a girl who was an informal leader. Her main occupation was to conduct intrigues and organize all sorts of dirty tricks. Her authorship was the phrase: Today, the whole group does not speak to the girl, whose skirt is red – and the whole group turned away from the little girl in red.
At an older age, such children become elders of the class, and in the adult they usually occupy leadership positions.
It’s good to be the main in the team, it’s impossible to be the main child in the family. In order not to upset the baby with this state of affairs, satisfy his ambitions by appointing him to the position of chief caregiver for the aquarium or for getting wet laundry from the washing machine.
However, to go on about and give in to the little man, who is many times younger than you, still not worth it. That is why you should stick to your decisions – for example, if your mother decided to go to the store for milk, it means that you need to and objections are not accepted.
Do you encourage the child’s desire to be in charge?