Today, I was horrified to find that my girl, my little miracle, looking into my eyes with her innocent and clean look, brazenly lying to me! And it is in 4 and a half years! And this is my girl! However, I tried to pull myself together and calm down. And I almost got it. However, the question of why my daughter was lying did not give me rest.
I studied quite a number of similar stories, remembered myself as a child, talked to my mother, read psychologists’ works on the topic of children’s lies. And I made for myself certain conclusions with which I want to share with other moms.
Lies children two – four years
Children of this age never deliberately lie, in order to mislead an adult. Babies 2 – 4 years old have a very rich and well-developed imagination. That is why such children themselves are sometimes not always able to make out where the truth is, but where is just a figment of their imagination. Therefore, the mother should not be surprised when a kindergarten teacher asks if her child actually spent the weekend in Africa.
A child of this age should never be scolded for lying. After all, the only thing that can be achieved with such a measure is the development of various complexes in a child. It is much more useful to constantly explain to the crumbs the difference between fiction and reality.
False children of six – eight years
At this age, kids also often begin to lie. For example, your son can tell all his friends that they have bought him a super-expensive computer or bicycle, and his daughter can tell him that she has been chosen for the role of the main heroine of a series.
At this age, most children tend to wishful thinking. The task of the parents is to explain to the child as clearly as possible that the lie will, in any case, sooner or later be revealed and turn against the child himself.
False children over eight years old
At about 7 years old, the child will begin to understand that with the help of a lie one can evade any duties, or even avoid punishment for his offenses. Their lies are more thoughtful and believable, unlike the lies of the little ones. Children, as a rule, prepare lies in advance.
Here, in this case, parents should suppress as much as possible all, even the slightest, manifestations of lies. The child must firmly understand that a lie is evil, and in any case it will be exposed. If the child does not understand this, as he grows up, the situation will be greatly aggravated, and the lie will become more and more refined.
In the event that you are not able to cope with a lie yourself, you may need to consider asking a psychologist for help. After all, if a teenager will lie, parents will have a hard time. And it is not known how this will turn out.