Many parents ask themselves: is their child too soft? He easily gives up his toys, always sticks out on the hill on the top, all the while letting in other children, if he is pushed, he goes to the side.
Sometimes it is a shame to look at this behavior of the baby. We, accustomed to adult standards, are afraid if such a child will be able to adapt in the future, will he learn to protect his own interests?
Most worried are the dads of boys who want to see in their child an implacable warrior, a fighter. However … is this correct?
In fact, most often we simply transfer our own complexes and fears to our children. Whether the child himself sees the problem in what is happening – this is the question that needs to be asked first. And, if the baby does not feel discomfort – leave him alone. Apparently, he does not see a problem in the similar behavior of other children.
It is quite another thing if the child is crying, is upset, or in any other way shows his displeasure.
If his toys are taken away, they are not pushed by chance, but regularly and deliberately, they are not allowed to play – here it is necessary to recall that the parent is first and foremost a protector. Just do not rush to give a pope to someone else’s child.
What to do in this situation?
First, be sure to intervene. The fact is that it is just silly to make it easy for children under 5 to figure it out on their own. They still do not have enough experience for this. So our task is to form this experience, to demonstrate how this is done.
The only way to teach a child to protect himself is to demonstrate how to do it.
First, go to your baby and help. Remind him that if he does not want to share toys – he has every right to do so. This is his personal property, and he is free to give or not to give it to other children. In the end, we adults have a lot of things that we don’t share with anyone.
To say this is necessary when the offender and as correct as possible. For example, to remind you that the slide is common, and all children have the same right to use it, you can pick up your toys, again, as gently and correctly as possible.
If the same child acts as an abuser, he will bully everyone around – parents need to rally and settle the issue with the parents of this child.
If the conflict cannot be resolved, it is necessary to change the environment. Go to another area, discuss the issue with teachers in kindergarten. Educators see a child without you, and it is quite possible that he is the instigator of the quarrels, even though it seems like an angel to you. If this is so, it is necessary to remind the child that this behavior is unacceptable.
And what to do when the child is a little older, I already wrote.