How to teach a child to clean up after themselves? And from what age do it? I think that this question is asked by many mothers whose babies are more than 1 year old.
I do not understand the affection of parents in their stories that yesterday in the apartment they could not step over from the abundance of toys on the floor or slipped through the juice poured in the kitchen. I want my child to clean behind him toys now, and in the future he could warm up to eat and wash the dishes.
Everyone knows that the child repeats after adults and absorbs like a sponge all the situations that happen around him. Therefore, if you want a child to love order, then he should see him in his house every day.
If you have a mess, then, do not need to require order from the child, start with yourself. You should show him that you need to clean the apartment and then maintain this order. And over time, he will understand that this is the way to keep the apartment clean.
But if you have a perfect order at home, this is not a guarantee that your child will clean things up behind him, but only a step towards achieving your goal. It is necessary to help the baby from an early age. Do not expect that he will one day get up and decide to remove everything, and still help to wash and eat to cook. This I already completely dreaming. You have to do everything in the beginning.
At the same time, do not force the child. Because the phrases Quickly remove the toy, otherwise I will not give you a chocolate bar, or Danya removes toys, and you have absolutely no good for me and your mother can not help your kid develop persistent hostility to this process.
But in order for the child to do what you want, he must know how to do it. Therefore, show him how to do and explain why. Very important for the child is praise. Say what a good fellow he is to you, an adult, independent, and a real mother’s assistant or helper.
Turning cleaning into the game
I asked my son to clean up after a toy somewhere from one and a half years. The first thing he liked was throwing various pieces of paper into the trash. Then there were throws in the toy basket for accuracy. Then he got tired of it, and he began to rest.
Then the game came to the rescue.
1) I already told you that my son wants to be first in everything. Then she said to him: You probably will not be able to gather first, in the end, after three minutes everything was in its place.
2) We have two soft toys in high esteem. So they became the heroes of the fairy tale-cleaning. The dragonfish removes those toys that are in the baskets. And the cat puts all the cars on the shelf.
3) Once my child spilled juice on the table. And then he went, took a little white T-shirt in his closet and wiped it behind him. I could barely restrain myself not to scream for the damaged thing. But then I realized that this way the desire to clean up after myself can disappear altogether. Therefore, I proposed an alternative to a t-shirt – a rag, and told me where to get it.
Now he removes his toys into place himself, and if he is naughty and does not want to clean, I simply do not allow me to take the next toy. But we do not shout and we do not quarrel, simply, if I said no, then this means that there is no firm today and tomorrow without concessions.
My son is very similar to his dad. I have never seen things scattered by a husband, dirty socks, which are neatly set in a corner. The maximum that he can do is to leave dirty dishes and even if he is late for work. So, son, if he puts the cars in, then headlights ahead, if he puts on slippers, then in a ticker, and if he removes toys, then everything falls into place.