Another time this question arose recently, when I almost had a panic attack on the playground. I sit, read a book, periodically looking for a child. And then during the next control scan the child disappeared from the radar …
I’m in a panic
A couple of minutes ago I was here, but now I don’t. Call-shouting does not make sense – on the site is a wild buzzard. Went around her time, the second – no where! I have already begun to plan routes with which I will be combing the park, when suddenly I see my child sitting in a children’s house squatting and handing sand across the floor.
My panic is not unreasonable. The fact is that my child has recently become quite sociable. She is ready to play with children of different ages with the same enthusiasm. In addition, always involves in the process of adults who are here next to watch their kids.
And adults who have shown interest or sympathy for her, generally become best friends. Instantly! Somehow we bought fruits at the market, and the saleswoman came to my daughter’s emotion – she had such a serious and appreciative look from her childhood that no one ignores her.
In general, my aunt talked to my child and laughed. On this positive wave, my daughter finally wanted to express about the painful one: But Dad lives at home, he has a cat there, I will soon come to visit him, but Mom will not go there, she does not want to go there! Aunt somehow immediately faded and quickly retreated. Awkward moment, yes.
One more example. Recently, during my runs in the stadium, one grandfather crowded into my companions. He himself is an athlete in the past, so I can run with him very much even with my hands: and the pace helps to keep good, and time marks …
But it’s not about that. I always take the child with me, because I have nowhere to go. So from the first joint run she was ready to go with him anywhere and urged us to visit us at home.
I’m at a loss
And now I understand that such openness is normal for a child. On the one hand, I am even pleased that she can easily come into contact with strangers and communicate without constraint. As a child, I remember that it was difficult.
But on the other hand, there is no limit to my alarm. This is because anyone can come, to lure her, her mother, her dress, promise her all-all tasty and interesting – and she will quietly leave, without blinking an eye and faithfully holding her hand.
When the above examples happen, I try to unobtrusively analyze the situation for her, explain that you should not trust so unfamiliar adults. But I’m still afraid that I’ll scare the hell out of a child, and she’s generally afraid of everything and everyone. Of course, I do not give her all the seven circles of hell, but know how she will react to seemingly simple words.
And what do you tell the children so that they are not extremely trusting towards everyone around?