Recently, I was confronted with the fact that my daughter, it turns out, can not be a single minute alone at home. Indeed, I never left her unattended. I had to jump out for 5 minutes for milk, and at home – oceans of tears and mountains of reproaches. I realized that it’s time to train my daughter to think that she would have to be alone in the house.
To teach and leave one – two different things. Immediately close the daughter alone in the house, I can not. We need to start with an educational conversation.
Explain, speak, persuade, tell and give examples. This is what I will do in the next month. After all, this is a whole problem – it is impossible even, elementary, to go to the store or to the hospital. And leave the child, most often, not with anyone.
The question of how much you can leave the baby alone does not have a clear answer. In the legislation of some countries there is a prohibition to leave a child alone in a house up to 12 years old.
But in fact, I think it is necessary to proceed from the child’s independence and mental stability. Leaving an untrained child alone at home can damage the nervous system.
My daughter is now 3 years old and I know that, having put her near the TV, I can safely go to the kitchen, do household chores. She knows that I am at home and does not care. Tears begin when she realizes that I go out the door and there is no one in the house except her.
I understand that children are often afraid of things and phenomena that they do not understand. The usual rustling, incomprehensible shadow can, in the future, lead to neuroses and even to the development of phobias. So my baby is afraid of curtains, as she told me. She sways and the daughter is afraid that someone hid behind her.
I’m just starting to train my daughter to be alone at home, but alreadydeveloped for itself a set of basic rules which should be followed by me and parents, who also want to teach their children to stay alone at home.
one. Leaving the child alone, it is necessary to let him know that all is well and that you will come very soon. Explain that you went to the store for 10 minutes, and you will come back very quickly.
2 Best in your absence to take something baby: give some not difficult task, for example: wash the dishes or sweep in the room. Leave him an album with pencils or a board game. If the child can read – give him an interesting book.
3When you leave the apartment, then wait a couple of minutes outside the door, Listen, do not cry baby without you. If everything is quiet, then go to the store, and returning, the best encouragement will be to praise the child for independence.
four. Each time increase the period of his absence, but make sure that your absence does not exceed an hour. Take your time, do not leave it for a long time alone, let the child get comfortable. Praise him more often, your patience and caress will be rewarded.
five. One more important condition is elementary self-service skills. If you leave a child alone, then you must be sure, for example, of his ability to warm up food for himself. Therefore, you need to instill the necessary skills.
The child should be able to wash his hands by himself, go to the toilet, know what is where, especially his toys. Teach your child to use the phone and leave all the necessary numbers so that the baby is always sure that he can contact you.
6 Explain elementary safety rules. And most importantly – explain that it is dangerous for strangers to open the door.
And even better, if all the members of your family have the key, and they themselves will open the doors, then the baby must remember that the door cannot be opened to anyone. It would not be amiss to ask neighbors or friends to check how the child learned this lesson.
I think that I will gradually learn all these rules too. We are only 3 years old, there is still time, the main thing is not to play too much so that it does not work out like in the movie Alone at home: the parents left and the child is forgotten.
And at what age did you begin to leave the child alone at home?