Often, walking in the yard with my daughter, I drew attention to the children, who, despite their small age, behaved rather rudely and not too culturally expressed. Honestly, in such cases, with my eyes, I immediately looked for the mother of the child in order to understand where the roots grow from.
As a rule, the mothers of these children with emotion looked at the behavior of their offspring, without even trying to comment on it. And at such moments I understood the reasons for the behavior of these children. I even felt sorry for them a little. After all, they are, in fact, not to blame for the mistakes of their parents.
Each parent has its own methods by which he imparts a particular quality to a child. I tried to single out the main ones that we use with my husband so that our daughter would grow up a well-bred, cultured person. Here are the main ones.
1. Be polite in everyday life
It is foolish to demand politeness from a child and at the same time be a very rude person. A child should not hear from the parents’ lips a scream, a scolding, an obscene language.
Children, like sponges, absorb all the information from the outside world. Therefore, it is not surprising that a child shouts at parents and peers, if the cry is the main method of communication among its relatives.
2. Do not blame, and teach the child
Very often, when one family comes to visit us with a girl of eight, I hear the phrase: Do not go to adult conversation !. And it is pronounced quite rude, I would even say in a degrading, tone. The child is offended and goes into another room with tears in his eyes. This situation happens three times a night, no less.
In my opinion, it is necessary to listen to the child, otherwise he will feel superfluous, unnecessary to his family. In addition, in this way he is humiliated by outsiders, and this is not permissible.
To prevent this, it is enough to turn to the child differently. Suppose I say to my daughter in such cases: Now I will agree and listen to you. Wait a minute. I have never seen a resentment in the eyes of my daughter.
3. Show your love for the child
Many parents rarely hug their crumbs, and even less often they say they love them. It seems to me that this is happening because of the employment of people in modern society. I know it on my own, coming home from work late in the evening, sometimes I don’t have enough time and energy even for such little things. It is unfortunate that children suffer in such cases.
Make it a rule every night to say that you love your child, kiss and hug him and be sure to read a bedtime story, because no audiobook can be compared with a gentle mother’s voice.
By following these simple rules, you will make an invaluable contribution to the education of your child. After all, any human qualities originate in the family!