Do you often take offense at your child? I have offenses on the eldest daughter. Recently, she began to behave very badly towards me. Well, how not to be offended?
Do you often take offense at your son or daughter? And how often do you get mad at the baby? Sometimes it seems to me that children just skillfully use tricks. They can speak insulting words, go into hysterics, not help mom, commit unacceptable acts.
I judge not only by my daughter. I have heard a lot about other children. And my husband’s niece was growing in front of my eyes. Of course, she is an adult now, she is 12 years old. But before that, how much she drank all the blood! She didn’t feel sorry for her parents and grandparents! She believed that everyone owed her something and should do something, found offensive words and knew how to hurt a living thing!
She was offended very often. But really, it was just an unbearable child! She is still stubborn, can stand on her for a very long time, not wanting to give anyone in anything. But behind the painful injection of resentment, unfortunately, anger appears. I do not want me to go through the same thing with my children!
Insults on the child
What children hurt us? His actions and words. Right? My daughter does not feel sorry for me at all! When we go to the kindergarten, I have to carry the stroller with the youngest son, who still wants to fall out of it, and lead my daughter by the hand.
She does not obey because she does not want to go into the garden. He says that I take her in my arms or on a horse (this is to carry her on my back, which already hurts terribly). Mom, I’m tired, my legs and arms hurt !. Naturally, she tries to manipulate me and wants to take advantage of my naivety and kindness.
But it was not there! I say that it is hard for me, I can not, I myself am tired. She takes offense at me, and I at her. Another daughter can say hurtful words. Heard from an older cousin. And now he is trying to squeeze these words into a conversation with me! Almost not on her, and you hear all sorts of nastiness. Hearing the abuse from her mouth for the first time, I hit my lips, I was very offended.
Offended or not?
Well, how do you think, do not be offended when a child in 4 years says the nastiness of his mother? And now I scream at Veronica, I am on the verge of uncontrollable hysteria. It’s ugly, I know very well. And I feel bad for the soul, and my baby. And there is nothing good about it. This bad feeling begets evil, which should not be in the loving heart of a mother!
What to do? I try to talk more with my daughter. I explain to her that bad words cannot be used in life. Ugly to swear and call friends, friends, and especially native people! When a daughter achieves something, we argue with her why she wants it, and I try to understand the real reason for her desire. Surprisingly, the interests of the child must also be considered!
When the baby offends me, I try not to take everything seriously. I’m not a small child who will sort things out from scratch. I accepted the following point. You need to remain a strong adult who is able to control the situation, and not succumb to it.
And I also extract important information from the situation: what happens to the child at this moment? He may be tired, afraid of something, just want to sleep. Hence all the reasons, and they should be understood. I need to teach my beloved miracle a lesson: I explain that my daughter does not do this, let her understand that she offends and distresses other people.
What do you do in these situations? Do you often resent your children? Or maybe you should not be angry and offended at the crumbs?