Recently, I was visiting a friend. They celebrated the birthday of her youngest daughter (the baby was only one year old). Relatives, families with children were invited. One friend came with a boy of six.
What he got up at the festival is difficult to describe. He rushed around the apartment, looked everywhere, climbed into all accessible places. Even under the holiday table managed to climb. At the same time, he hooked the tablecloth and almost dropped all the dishes on the floor.
He grabbed presents, toys, quickly repressed them and switched to something new. He even started jumping from the couch, scattering cushions all over the floor in the children’s room. Connected to this all the kids. Unnoticed, he took the headphones from the computer desk and tore the cord from them.
Moms are different
The mother of the child all this time was in a blessed state of mind. Rested with the rest of the guests, keeping calm and calm. At the sight of her son whirling past the festive table, she broke into a smile of emotion. Guests puzzled looked at each other, tried to stop the persuasion of a restless boy. They offered to play quiet games, but he did not listen.
To which his mother insinuatingly explained to pedagogically non-grounded guests that her Vanya is a good boy who does not think badly. It’s okay that he plays and runs – all the guys in preschool age love it.
The hostess was perplexed, more and more internally boiled at the sight of the child’s actions. The holiday, if not completely spoiled, certainly did not follow the script.
Do I have to say that Vanya is a hyperactive child who is simply not recommended to be invited to the noisy companies of the place where many guests gather?
A children’s holiday is not the best place to talk about parenting mistakes. And, probably, Vanina Mommy would not have listened anyway to the advice of her acquaintances, considering initially only her opinion as the only correct one. Guests did not raise this issue, although the situation did not leave anyone indifferent.
The matter ended with the overexcited Vanya becoming naughty, tugging at her skirt with the demands to go home, as he became bored and had nothing to do. Mom gathered a precious child and said goodbye to us.
Hyperactivity and parental care
If the child is inclined to be constantly in motion, he will bustle, jump, jump, and even in inappropriate places and circumstances. Can not stop and do quiet games. Overworked from running around, but continues to be worn further – most likely, we are talking about hyperactivity.
In such children, the excitation of the central nervous system over the processes of inhibition predominates. Such a child cannot control himself; he needs the help and support of an adult.
The adult constantly takes the child, teaches him to calm board games. Removes unnecessary toys so that the child does not switch his attention from one subject to another and can concentrate on one case.
It creates a calm atmosphere in the family, clearly observes the daily routine, treats the child’s features with understanding, does not eat and does not punish for excessively active behavior.
Directs the energy of the child to a peaceful course, leads to sports sections, for example. Teaches the child to fulfill the requirements, defines clearly the circle of prohibitions and what is permitted. Monitors compliance with the rules systematically, day by day.
It develops perseverance in the performance of various tasks, gradually increasing the time of classes.
Picks up cool friends. It creates conditions for communication with peers so that the child communicates with one or two children at the same time, no more.
Limits the time a child spends watching TV and at a computer, prohibits viewing aggressive and scary movies, which can overexcite a child emotionally and cause a surge in hyperactivity.
Calmly and without negativism, without stopping, reacts to disinhibition and attention deficit of the baby.
Finally, keeps the child in medical control by a neurologist, a psychologist. If necessary, treats with medication. Fulfills the recommendations of experts …
Let’s not be arrogant
How many moms, like Vanina, idolize their daughters and sons, do not point out the shortcomings of their behavior, and, which is especially sad, do not see psychological and neurological problems?
The children themselves suffer from parental illiteracy in the first place, and only the second, those around them …