Good and kindness are controversial concepts. No wonder the great philosophers argued tirelessly, trying to find a more objective definition for them. It must be said that all of them in one degree or another suffered a fiasco. After all, a single, generally accepted definition was never found.
Good and kindness are subjective concepts. The fact that someone may seem a good deed, another will appreciate, at least, as a disservice. So, parents only for good intentions often spoil the life of their children, not even realizing that their goods are harmful to their beloved children.
However, in one of its incarnations, good, after all, more or less managed to find objectivity. In the overwhelming majority of cases, a positive attitude towards the world, surrounding people, animals and plants is perceived as good.
It is unlikely that someone would call it a good deed to break the branches of trees just planted in the park or foam the dog quietly running past. It is this positive attitude towards the world that we must teach our children.
Say no to animal abuse
In order for a child to have a positive attitude towards the surrounding reality, it is necessary to show him a proper example. The kid will definitely grow up with the persistent belief that animals exist only to be the object of ridicule, bullying and kicks if you regularly practice these activities. It is unlikely that the child will come to mind to stroke, feed, regret the animal, if you do not teach it to him.
I remember one episode seen. Grandmother (or very old mother, today it happens) was walking with her grandson (or son). A boy of about 5-6 years old, a small lap dog and a grandmother with them. The picture is idealistic. If not for one thing.
The boy selflessly tried to incite a benign lap-dog on the cat family, located in the hole formed in the sidewalk. The child screamed the front, shoved the lap dog into the hole where frightened kittens huddled. Their mother tried to attack the lap dog. The latter, by the way, was no less scared than the kittens. In her plans for hunting cats is clearly not included.
And what about grandma? Never mind! She stood on the sidelines and watched the attempts of her grandson.
Tell me, will a person grow out of this child who is respectful and with compassion relating to our smaller brothers? It seems to me unlikely.
This episode is firmly sunk into my soul. 6 years have already passed since I became an unwitting witness to this horror. It is difficult for me to choose another definition for what is happening.
And even it is not clear who is sorry for this situation. Poor kittens? Their mother? Frightened dog? Or a boy growing up in such a hard-hearted family?
Therefore, for me, the question of whether to instill in a son a good attitude towards others, whether people, animals or plants, was never a question. Of course, vaccinate!
But how? Just an example of your own? Or are there more tricks? The development of good qualities, in this understanding of the word, we started with soft toys. We learned to stroke them, regret, feed, rejoice in them. All met cats and dogs for us are always good, cute, cute, funny.
We do not even have the concept of an evil dog. The dog is kind, but it can bite, but not because it gets angry. Just scared. For these reasons, it is better not to approach dogs, to watch them from the outside, to admire, to consider.
My son and I go to the park to feed the pigeons, collect bones for yard dogs and be sure to share the newly acquired sausage with the kitten we met.
And unkind cartoons
In addition, we have imposed a ban on many cartoons. For example, I do not show my son, at first glance, harmless Tom and Jerry. Funny, funny cartoon, but not kind.
Watch it carefully. What only tests do not fall to the lot of Tom. He is burning, falling from an incredible height, his tail is being ripped out, he is being beaten, his paws are being pinched to him … Zhivotrenstvo, the right word.
And if the child watches all this, then in his understanding he will sit down firmly that cats have not 9 lives, but all 109. They do not burn in the fire, and do not drown in water. And that means it’s normal to stun a cat with some heavy object? In the cartoon, they practice it. And the cat is alive and well.
Let it be better our Well, wait! The wolf also has a hard time, but his head is never flattened into a pancake.
In other words – do good, treat positively animals, people, plants. Do not hurt them, teach the child to have compassion. And most likely, he will grow up as a positive person who can sympathize and empathize. At least for this he will have all the prerequisites.