In the life of almost every child there may come a stage. I hide from all of you. And the task of parents, aunts, grandmothers and other adult relatives is to prevent shyness from gaining a foothold in the form of a child’s personality.
When the sprouts of this unwanted quality appeared in my beloved niece, our family did not let them grow. We ripped them out, not sparing.
What is dangerous shyness?
I know from my own example how difficult it is for shy people. I still find it difficult to converge with new friends. It is not known who is to blame. Perhaps something depends on the birth horoscope and on the peculiarities of the social policy pursued by the state.
But also a great role in this difficult matter is education.
How we helped our princess
In general, my nephew was born under the sign of Aquarius. I would not say that she is burdened with complexes. This is a lively, bright baby. But about a year in 3 appeared shy grimaces. (Perhaps peeped with friends in the garden?)
My sister is a very wise woman. Even before the birth of her daughter, she was able to free herself from her own complexion, so she raised the child in the spirit. Be yourself and do not be afraid.
From an early age she taught her daughter withexpress yourself, be able to negotiate and make decisions. Perhaps this is one of the most important qualities of any person.
So that my niece does not become a notorious child, my sister taught her to shop at the store very early. For example, if the baby wanted to drink, she was given money along with the instructions to go to the aunt-seller and ask for what she wanted.
When I first saw such a heavy educational artillery, it was a little uncomfortable. After all, I probably did not buy anything in stores up to 7 years old in stores. And this resulted in the fact that up to 12 years I was catastrophically afraid of sellers.
(Honestly, there is still a subconscious fear of buying, calling authorities, communicating with strangers. Here they are the consequences of education, which led to shyness!)
Therefore, it is much more productive to accustom the child to an active social life as early as possible, and not to do everything for him.
For the first time, of course, it was difficult for the nephew to decide to make contact with the aunt-seller. But in the end she did it. And all fear has vanished.
As my sister later told me, it was fun. The child, barely reaching the counter, pulls the money to the saleswoman and says: Hello, I would like a little juice, but I really want to drink.
And my merit is that I taught my niece to love myself, to love the camera and, without hesitating, fooling around in front of her in every way. It is very liberating.
And gives remarkable pictures.