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How to find a middle ground in the education of heterosexual children, preschoolers

Raising children of different sexes began to interest me from the day my kids were born.

I have growing opposite-sex twins, or rather, they are identical twins. When they were small, even the thought did not arise that I was doing something wrong.

After all, it is clear that they eat together, in a wheelchair together, clothes are also for everyone for every day. Let the pink / blue, but the shorts are comfortable, practical. Children play in common toys, a bedtime story one for all. The son could play dolls, and his daughter quietly built a garage of cubes. There was not a moment to think about gender differences.

One size fits all

In three and a half years, the situation has changed. They have a tendency to independent activity. Children could play in the same room in different games, they became freer in their relations with those around them, who were perceived as equals.

Known phenomenon I myself manifested in each of them in different ways. I understood that children grow up and it is necessary to change the requirements depending on their gender. We bought gifts for the holidays, taking into account the sex of the child, but they quickly became common among the twins, there was no obvious difference who and the more played.

Since I was at home with the children, the boy, accordingly, had to participate in all sorts of women’s events: cleaning the apartment, ironing clothes, and preparing food. The choice of programs on TV was also mostly girlish. I could pull off my son’s hair with a beautiful elastic, and my daughters put on a turtleneck with a football.

Previously, this did not cause any protest, but once she categorically refused to wear a sweater with a typewriter, then she wanted to listen to the story not about dragons, but only about princesses, while her son calmly treated sweaters with sunflowers and dutifully watched cartoons about flying fairies.

I began to think that we were obviously missing something, because I would like the boy to grow up a real man. It is necessary that each of them correctly associate themselves with their gender, master the corresponding behavior. The girls, of course, are quicker to think in this period, and in our case the son was led. But I wanted him to make decisions, and not go on about the sister.

I told my husband what was bothering me, and we decided to think about what can be done to dilute our female life with men’s activities.

However, at this stage it turned out to be difficult.

First of all, I’m alone and split up in order to take everyone to different circles, there is no possibility.

Secondly, the male section took older children, which is also logical.

Therefore, we decided to do on our own. What we have come to:

1. Delimited the shelves with children’s clothes, and each of them was told where and what to take.

2. We chose a suitable hairstyle for the boy, excluding long tails and rezinochki.

3. On weekends, the husband began to take his son to the men’s family events – buying food for a week and washing the car.

4. Bedtime stories read by turns. Today a son chooses a fairy tale, and tomorrow a daughter chooses.

And for some time, when the male team in our family became larger, my son’s all female habits disappeared. Now he feels like a real man, but his daughter instead of dolls took a sword and a bow in her hands. Now we have a little Amazon in our house who wears a skirt on with difficulty.

What to do with my daughter now?

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