Recently I was reviewing my daughter’s video. Oh, what a nostalgia! Baby 2 years. She enthusiastically paints in the album, sitting at the children’s table. One wrong move – and she pouts and begins to whimper meaningfully. Do not cry, namely whimper – without tears and somehow too artistic.
It’s been almost 4 years. In a year she will go to school. How quickly time flew by! The daughter stretched out, became a long-haired beauty. And habits have not changed. As soon as something does not suit – immediately indicative whine. Loud is so protractive … and nasty to the horror.
Many times I tried to talk to my daughter as an adult. She explained that doing so is not beautiful and very embarrassing. And I said, and my husband had several conversations. The result is, but temporary. Not a day goes by as the daughter repeats her speeches again.
To many, my problem will seem trivial. Honestly, it is so sad when the most dear and beloved child refuses to hear you! Sometimes it seems to me that she specifically does the opposite. I heard that this behavior of preschoolers is not uncommon. Did your children behave in this way?
I understand that part of the blame for this behavior of the baby on us – the parents. Most likely, with a whimper, she tries to gain attention, which she often lacks. Housework, an infant and work do not always allow enough time for the eldest daughter.
Realizing this, I decided to make every effort to solve this problem. I asked for help from a kindergarten psychologist, and she gave me certain advice. I want to share them with you, dear readers Alimero!
The fight with the whine
one. Do not retreat. If a child begins to whimper in order to achieve his goal (for example, to receive a cherished toy or candy), he cannot be led by him. Otherwise, he will use this method of manipulation regularly. If you give a weak sign only once – and a small manipulator will draw certain conclusions. The more started the situation, the more difficult it will be to wean the child from the habit of whining.
2 Show a good tone. Often a child whimpers because he does not know how to express certain emotions. It happens that the baby is annoying or just does not like something. Although he is small, but also a man, with his emotions and desires.
Show your child his behavior in response to a particular situation and the balanced response of an adult. For example: I will not wear it. (tapping foot) and Mom, I do not want to wear this jacket today, can I wear another one ?. Explain that the second option will bring faster results.
3 Set the rules. Make a formal announcement in the family circle that from now on, in response to every sob, the child will be refused. Remind the kid about it. And do not forget about advice number 1.
When I told my daughter rule number 3, she already shed tears of resentment 🙂 But she promised not to whimper anymore, because they are a big girl and should set a good example to her little sister.
What do you think is the reason for this behavior of preschoolers?