To your child yet not turned 3 years old? Then do not even think of calling him a sneak. A child at this age often speaks about the actions of other children in order to figure out what is good and what is bad. When a child says to you: Mom, and the boy caresses the mongrel, then he is waiting for a reaction from you, according to which he will be able to see the next time he approaches the foreign dog and strokes it.
You, respectively, on how you understand the concept of good-bad, you can answer that you can approach a dog and thus instill a child’s love for animals or say that you cannot approach someone’s dog, as it can bite, it is dirty or any other option. The main thing in this conversation will be that you answer the child. The child speaks of others when he has not yet performed the action, but he would like to know whether this is good or bad.
Do not dismiss such questions of the child. The child often simply seeks protection from the stronger (mom, dad, grandmother, grandfather). If your child has been taken away a toy in the sandbox, then he will come to you not to snitch, but to ask for help from the stronger one.
3-5 years old
The child is already smart enough to observe the methods of behavior among themselves parents, their relationships with grandparents and other relatives. How often do you tell your husband, after a working day or grandmothers on the phone, what new things can your child or what funny phrase did he give today? Often? Why, then, are you surprised that the child also shares his impressions and observations: the girl played with a typewriter, the boy picked up a toy, the children ran, and the boy fell – this was not roaming, but simply observing your child. Your role as mothers to discuss with the child what he is interested.
Up to 5 years, sabotage is normal and is a normal point for further development. Very soon, your baby will be able to independently evaluate the actions of other people and will evaluate their actions, which means that they will be able to understand that it is not necessary to do bad things. Do you want to speak with your child in the future in confidence, then do not prohibit innocent sneaking at preschool age.
As you can see, in the preschool years, it is not necessary to fight snooping, but if you still think that your child too often complains about others, then try to weaken the strict requirements to follow social norms a little. Healing of this age is an indicator of children’s trust in you. You do not want to fight against trust?
Listen to your child and respond wisely to him, as each situation of outrage is individual and you need to look for approaches of understanding also individually. Remember that bad sulking proposes a child’s benefit, everything else is just a way to understand human relations and notions is good and bad.