It is not easy for any mother to accept the fact that her beloved child has low self-esteem. Once I had to face this unpleasant problem. For me it was just a blow.
After all, if a child is not confident in his own abilities, he does not want to communicate with peers and adults. Such children are much harder to experience their failures.
We have a problem! There is no self-esteem!
I can not say exactly when it all started, because Andrew grew up quiet, calm and very modest. And, unfortunately, without me. Up to 7 years, my biological son raised her adopted son to biological mother, and, apparently, she didn’t pay much attention to the aspect of self-esteem. The boy is often guided by phrases like: I will not succeed, I can not, I do not know, but, honestly, everyone thought that the kid would outgrow it.
My husband and I learned that our adopted son had low self-esteem from a child psychologist when he enrolled in school. Although, as I explained, it is possible to identify this problem at the primary level, if you carefully observe how the child acts in a particular situation, what he says. But I had no such opportunity.
It turns out that we immediately, as soon as we noticed that the child is very modest, not very social, it was necessary to sound the alarm! And we saw another reason for this.
But I note that low self-esteem can be in children who behave very defiantly. Thus, they are trying to hide their insecurity, so you always need to be alert.
Together we raise the self-esteem of the child!
I decided to approach the issue extensively and did not dwell only on the advice of a psychologist.
Today you can find a lot of information on this topic: from bookshelves, Internet pages, newspapers, magazines, scientists, psychologists and just people with more experience appeal to us and want to share useful information. And I, in turn, want to tell you about those tips that I learned and applied in practice.
First of all, you need to find out the cause of low self-esteem. Everything turned out to be rather prosaic in our country – the problem is a bit overweight. The child has not been very active since childhood, which affected the appearance. Andrei felt uncomfortable in the company of his peers.
We immediately decided to captivate the child with sports, and since the problem must be approached comprehensively, we did not stop there. I want to say to parents with similar problems, it does not matter what disadvantage your child has, with proper impact you can turn all the disadvantages into advantages, the main thing is not to despair.
In order to improve the relationship of the child with the team, we decided to arrange a thematic birthday and invite his friends and classmates. The children were delighted with the celebration.
And in order to consolidate the result, they asked the class teacher to use him in some event, so that Andrei could demonstrate his organizational skills, as this would give him a sense of significance and raise his authority among classmates.
Now our son is the head of the class and plays the main role in the class play.
And finally, I’ll say, just love your child and don’t let him doubt yourself.
How do you raise self-esteem for your child?