You run all day, do business, do all sorts of important things, and as a result there is very little time left for a child. Then you blame yourself for not paying proper attention, scolding yourself – I’m a bad mother. But I recently received an indulgence!
The problem of time and attention
The problem of working mom in what? I want to have time to earn a lot of money, maintain cleanliness in the apartment, prepare all the tasty items and give everyone time. And it would be fine if you do not have time to give it to yourself, but for the child it is most offensive.
On the one hand, I try to do all the work while my daughter is in kindergarten. But on the other, the real side, it is simply unrealistic. Therefore, often in the evening, instead of reading a book together or drawing, I ask her not to touch me, because you need to finish the work. And in the evening, falling asleep, I blame myself for being such an inattentive mother.
Sometimes I try, as they say, with one eye to work, to the other – to play with my daughter. But it is very exhausting emotionally, and the result and there, and it turns out far from the best. But recently I heard one thought that instantly eased my suffering.
The secret to solving the problem
The essence of the thought is as follows – it is enough for a child of preschool age to devote about an hour of time per day. And this will be enough for him to feel the love and care of his mother. Another question is how she devotes this time to him.
It is extremely important all this time to be completely with the child: not only with the body, but also with the thoughts, with all the attention. After all, children all feel subtle, even the fact that our thoughts are somewhere not with them, but in work or care. And they need from us not just a physical presence, but a sincere interest and full attention.
Another secret, it is not necessary to note the time and play or read a book together for exactly an hour. This time can be divided into five, ten, fifteen minutes a day. My daughter is watching cartoons in the evening while I’m in the bathroom. But when I return, always asks to see one series together. These are the ten minutes that she really needs and needs.
Such a simple solution, but I literally fell a stone from my heart. Now in the evenings I work quietly, without being nervous. When a child asks to play, I promise to break away from work in 5-10 minutes and give it about the same time. Everyone is happy and contented.
What is most interesting, at work I began to keep up much more, and the child became much calmer and more courteous. He always asks if I have a lot of work and soon I will finish it. And does not fall into hysterics, as before, when he wants attention from me.
Do you pay enough attention to the child?