I have two children. My daughter turned four, goes to the garden. Son’s over a year. I, like any mother, are engaged in the upbringing and development of children. And I thought about how I teach them good manners. I believe that good manners can be instilled in a child only in a family.
Classes in development centers
I have repeatedly heard that there are developmental centers for children. Now there are even lectures for children about politeness. No matter how interesting someone else’s aunt would have to say about good manners, I know for sure that my daughter basically follows the example of others. Like a sponge, it absorbs the behavior of adults, including mine.
Of course, if you take the child to such classes, and you’ll swear at yourself and don’t greet your friends, there’s no sense. I believe that the best learning is our own example. Do you think the pussy does not understand anything? He understands even more than it seems to us! My daughter, for example, can make me some comments if I did something wrong.
Do we really want our children to make only the best impression on others? So what’s the problem? The child should be a confirmation that he is growing up in a prosperous family. He must grow educated, polite and intelligent. It all depends on the parents.
In the formation of a small, but already personality, honesty plays an important role. You understand that this quality must be brought up from early childhood? After all, filling up gaps in education later is much more difficult. The character is formed and is already more difficult to re-educate. Do you think that raising honesty in a child is difficult?
In fact, I myself am honest with my children. It is very important not to deceive the crumb, because he duplicates our behavior and will respond with the same. If we go through the park, I say immediately, without deceiving that we are in a hurry and there is no time to play. First, deception in the eyes of a child is a kind of betrayal. And I, first of all, a friend for my children, and not a traitor!
If you only do something to talk about every day: Say thanks! Say please! The child will hate these standard phrases. Do you know how I teach my words to these tokens? We have toys that are worn on the handle. I do small scenes. Of course, our collection is small and there is no puppet theater. But these scenes in which the donkey politely speaks with toys helps us a lot.
A daughter in the form of a game perceives the politeness of a donkey, bears and ducks is much easier than lectures on how to behave. And I do not have to say the phrase familiar to moms of all time: What should I say?!. The daughter herself, without reminders, says and thank you and please. And it pleases.
As I said, it is easier for children to perceive information in a playful way. It is also a way to hone manners. For example, we often invite our pups to visit: we set the table, prepare to eat. Some toys and dolls in our country are not quite right. And I observe whether the daughter will give them a remark, whether they will correct the mistakes of their guests.
Role-playing games, visual (in a game form) trips to a restaurant, cafe, theater – this is an excellent training. From the side you can observe the behavior and manners of the child. This is a great training option before this trip to visit.
I often invent fairy tales, stories, poems on the topic I need on my own. If my daughter, going from kindergarten, is indulging, I tell her a fairy tale about a naughty hare. Where the main character – the hare ran away from his mother and got lost. From his disobedience and whims he had to spend the night on the street, he got wet in the rain and fell ill. Of course, the story of a fairy tale is different. The main thing in my fairy tale therapy is to convey to the child the essence of what to obey (to be polite, well-mannered).
Raise a polite child with good manners can only educated parents. For our children, we are authority, example and best friend. For our child, we must become not just a mother, but the main listener and adviser, reliable support and support!
You know, children sometimes forget what we tell them. Do not shout and scold the crumbs. Remember yourself at his age. What were you like? Surely and forgetful, and playful. Therefore instead of humiliating and reproaching the baby, just gently remind. A remark or reminder in a polite form will be perceived better than a shout or humiliation (especially with friends).
And how did you teach your children to politeness and good manners?