When my daughter turned 2.5 years old, the family council decided to send her to kindergarten. I was not going to go to work yet and wanted to give my daughter the opportunity to adapt properly. After all, everyone knows how hard children get used to the team and how often they get sick outside the home walls.
My daughter got used to her caregivers quickly. She liked to go to the kindergarten, play with new toys, eat with everyone. But she absolutely refused to play with other children. If one of the little ones approached her, she would take her toy with her and go to the opposite corner, continuing to play with enthusiasm there.
My daughter never showed aggression or fear towards other children. But she did not want to play with them. Even the bright new toys of the kids seemed not to attract her.
Many have told me that I worry in vain, arguing that the daughter is too small. But I, like any mother, began to worry about this. I tried to do everything to teach the baby to be friends. Perhaps my experience will be useful for young mothers.
Playing with my daughter toys, I told my daughter that the bunny is friends with the bear cub, and the doll Masha with Katerinka. I focused on the fact that making friends is very good, that real friends always help each other, share sweets and toys.
Walking with children
Despite the fact that I was walking a lot in kindergarten, I tried as often as possible to take the baby to the playground, to the park or to visit friends who have children. When the baby asked to play with her in the sand, I tried to find a replacement for myself – I offered to play with the girl playing alongside.
At first, the daughter refused, but gradually began to approach unfamiliar children, to consider them from afar. It was progress – my child began to show interest in other children.
If we went to visit other children, I would buy a treat (without fail, asking my parents what they could). Most often it is juice or cookies. My daughter always bought the same gift. She liked very much to present the gift. Then the kids were seated to watch cartoons.
While the kids were busy, we could chat with a friend over a cup of coffee. Once the baby began to be interested, when we again go to visit. The next day, the daughter took two packs of cookies from the shelf at the store. When I asked why she needed so much, she replied that it was for Esenka. This is how our first girlfriend appeared – a charming little girl named Yesenia.
And at what age did your kids have their first friends? Were they easy to make contact with other children?