Children are undoubtedly joy and happiness. But how many difficulties with them! Their children sometimes seem problematic, but in the opinion of other mummies, you understand that problems are more serious. Recently, in our friendly mother’s team discussed the topic of children’s jealousy.
Before talking about jealousy, it is worth finding out what it is. Personally, I cannot find anything good in this sense, even though many believe that in many ways it is necessary to look for a positive. As a child, I read the phrase: In jealousy, not so much love as selfishness (that is, selfishness).
You know, I think you need to have a sense of self-esteem and self-love. You can be a little selfish, but only in moderation (not to harm others). So, for example, it’s better to say at work (for example) your solid is not, otherwise you will simply be loaded with work.
I got a little distracted. Just selfishness and jealousy for me in something similar. A person is jealous because he thinks that he should (or must) love more, devote more time, etc. Jealousy depresses, spoils the mood and general condition. And, in fact, incinerate from the inside.
I know at least two girls who are madly jealous of their husbands. Think there is a lot of love? If! Just girls are terribly jealous and terrible property owners. They are not easy in life, and even more difficult for their elects.
I believe that in many ways jealousy has its roots since childhood. The child is also jealous. No wonder because psychologists have written so many books about child jealousy! The kid is jealous of mom to dad and vice versa. There are some problematic children who do not allow anyone to visit their mother at all and do not let their mother go anywhere from themselves.
For example, for a long time my daughter simply did not slip off my hands. I continued my studies and often took her with me, because she did not want to remain with anyone. I remember now: I left my baby with my mother, I left my milk, and myself in pairs. I drove in a minibus half way, as my mom calls and says that she cannot calm my daughter for half an hour. I returned to the university without having appeared.
It’s funny, if not sad. With the advent of my son, I realized how much my daughter wants to be loved! She was not particularly jealous. You know, she really matured (almost 3 years old): she helped me with everything with a new family member. I woke up with me at night, we sang lullabies to the baby together and lounged it. I paid her a lot of attention, trying not to hurt her in anything, so as not to change my cardinal attitude towards her.
I was afraid that the eldest child would be jealous of the youngest, but this did not happen. Everything turned out the opposite. The son, as he grew up, began to understand a lot and even to use his priority – age. If he is younger, then much is permitted to him. And he became jealous: then my sister to me, then vice versa.
Now often they cannot divide me among themselves in the literal sense of the word. Someone first sat on his hands – a scandal! I seek reconciliation: I keep my daughter on the right side, my son on the left, turn on cartoons and distract them a little. I have to read at the same time about cars and Barbie, so as not to offend anyone.
Attention I pay at the same time and in the same way: draw, sculpt, glue everything together. In sweets and delicacies all equally. In gifts and new clothes as well. We share, change, put up. Sometimes we quarrel, but children always put up with the help of mirilok, kisses, hugs, and from the outside it’s so cute)))
Are your kids jealous? How do you cope with their jealousy?