Modesty was a virtue in the past. Today, self-doubt is considered a disadvantage rather than dignity. Therefore, modest and quiet people have a hard time. The same applies to children.
Where do you think this feeling comes from? Maybe we ourselves impose it on your child? We say: That you will not succeed, It will not work for you, do not even try. But you need to give the child the opportunity to show their skills and capabilities. Unfortunately, I was convinced of this myself.
Often she told her daughter not to touch anything, not to take it. She called her rastyapoy and armless. For myself, I did not realize that my child is not worthy of this. Naturally, any kid has a feeling of guilt, lack of self-confidence and self-control from such words. I was ashamed of myself. I try now to say kind, pleasant words, so as not to injure her.
My daughter since birth was strongly attached to me. We have a very subtle relationship. Before kindergarten, she behaved very timidly with children of her own age. In the sandbox and on the site, she was embarrassed to approach someone. Her insecurity frightened me. I was afraid that she would be so uncommunicative.
In the manger we were not friends with anyone, and did not want to go there. But still, I gently insisted on communicating with peers. We played in the sandbox, shared ourselves and asked for toys. Little by little, she began to communicate and make contact. Now my Veronica is a very sociable, active child.
How to overcome uncertainty
You need to be humble and kind, but you need to be able to stand up for yourself. As for me, there are some situations where being humble is necessary! For example, a visit to unfamiliar people, travel in transport, and many similar situations. It will be unpleasant for me if my children at a party start behaving arrogantly and too borzo.
When my daughter was too timid, I tried not to aggravate the problem. Perceiving it like this, we overcame this defect. I realized that it was necessary to understand why she behaves this way. In any case, you need to provide support, strongly encourage. I encouraged participation in games with other children, and it worked!
Games that helped us
From simple to complex. Any business consists of beginning, learning, trial and error. Nobody is perfect. It is important to clarify this crumbs. If we were painting, we would start drawing something simple: the sun, clouds, a lake. Then the drawing was complicated with details. If it was a coloring, then for starters, I took a light, with large drawings.
Games in the garden. You know, in the garden, children play educational and active games. Our teacher played with children in the games Gingerbread, My name. She tried her best to approach everything creatively.
Gingerbread. Man plays 5. Gingerbread lies on the floor, face up. Other kids add ingredients (butter, eggs, flour), make light circular movements on the player. Then roll out the dough, mold, everything is done carefully, the children talk among themselves.
It is very important to set feasible tasks for the child, to bring the work begun to the end. I tried to encourage my daughter, giving her hope in her own strength. With any result, Veronica saw my smile, and this added to her confidence.
And what did you do for the confidence of your child?