Many mothers who send their children to kindergarten are advised to give their favorite toy with them. The presence of some familiar thing next to him helps to reduce the stress of the baby in a new environment. But binding to familiar things is not limited to toys.
Common sense of different processes
My daughter for some time demanded to read her the same book with a single fairy fox with a rope. The book is designed for very small, but even at the age of six, this reading was enjoyable.
I could not understand what was fascinating in this process, but meekly turning the pages while reading a fairy tale. In fact, she already told her by heart, practicing various roles.
And only recently I understood the sacred meaning of this ceremony. I came across a phrase that the child is filled with new information every day. A huge amount of impressions is a high level of stress. Especially in the evening, the child aspires to something that is familiar to him, predictable.
Yes, the example with the book is similar to the toys that the kids take to the garden. Daughters need in the evening to calm the psyche and carry out some familiar ritual, the course and the final of which she knows in advance.
And then it dawned on me – so this is why the child needs a daily regimen! I always talked about discipline. Like, you need to be a disciplined person and adhere to the daily routine. But one word discipline drove me green longingly.
Not to say that a clear day routine has nothing to do with discipline, but, you see, it carries not only this function. A child in the evening should also have his own ritual, tied to his biological clock.
Not only the child himself consciously, but also his body should know that approximately at such and such time he prepares and goes to bed. Therefore, we need a preparatory ritual that will set the child to end the day. As well as the strict observance of the time of this ritual, so that the body includes all the necessary internal processes.
Our ritual is cleaning toys, going to the bathroom and serving cartoons. When the daughter was still quite young, I had to take something with her in order to go to the bathroom myself. For cartoons, I knew for sure that she would not climb anywhere and nowhere noshkodit. So the ritual was formed.
Then she goes to bed, and I read a book to her or, if she wishes, I put on calm music. In most cases, the child falls asleep quickly and sleeps well – the usual things do their job!
Do you use such information in raising a child?