Today we went for a walk with my daughter in the sandbox. They took with them buckets, shovels, molds for making cakes of sand. Since the weather was good, there were a lot of babies on the site. Moreover, no one had a toy. Seeing that we have a whole package of interesting things with us, many of them moved into the sandbox.
I didn’t notice how in a moment all our toys scattered across their hands and Sabrinka had only one mold left. The mothers of these children sat on the bench and chatted. I did not think, I returned our igruhi to the place, to which I heard from one mother that we were incredible greedy. And then I wondered: Is greed really that bad?
I think that every person has a natural sense of possessiveness. The realization that this is mine and I will not give it to anyone. I would not even say that the feeling is bad. In general, in my opinion, it is laid at our genetic level. Without it, not survive. After all, the resources are never enough for all material resources there, natural.
I think even the ancient people could hardly share a killed mammoth with a neighboring tribe or give them their tools. Everyone first of all thinks of himself and his relatives. For example, I am more greedy for people who are strangers to me, and very generous to those people who are dear to me. For all the love you will not – as they say.
How to behave parents?
My daughter loves to pick things she likes. Once she wanted to take off her glasses and the blue jacket she liked. But I try to keep an eye on her, monitor her, and not chat with other mommies or dig into the phone, and predict it. Along the way, I am telling her that these are not her toys, that the alien cannot be taken away, that the boy will be ill, that he will cry.
But, in no case, do not punish, do not scream, do not slap her for it. This is generally a dead end road. If the owner of the toy is against taking it from him, then we give it back to the daughters. Thank God, we have no problems with that. Although she is small, she does it with ease.
I do not think that greed is bad. Yes, and under the term greed, many unite not at all greedy qualities, such as economy, stinginess, thrift. In them, I do not see anything wrong. They help people not to be strangers, save, plan their expenses and not make rash, unnecessary expenses.
Do you think greed is bad?