For me personally, with my grandmother, there are very good and positive memories. And I am sure that my daughter will have the same thoughts about my mother.
I want to tell only about one grandmother, the second we have, she lives in the same city with us, but rarely communicates with her granddaughter – once in a couple of months due to the prevailing circumstances, which is why the daughter certainly doesn’t love her in any way less.
Grandmother was one of the first to see our baby. She was not present at childbirth, but with the greatest impatience and anxiety she awaited her birth in the hospital. It was agreed in advance that Mom would be with me in the ward all three days before discharge, for which I am very grateful.
Of course, I would have done it myself, but it was much easier for me at the company. Like many young mothers, I had absolutely no idea how and what to do with the child. Of course, for the first time, Mom was also holding a disposable diaper, but I completely trusted her experience.
I had a daughter in my hand – I constantly demanded to carry her in my arms, except that sometimes I slept in a crib or stroller. No wonder that already after a couple of months after her birth, my back, arms and veins in my legs had felt.
My parents live 20 minutes walk from our house, so my daughter and I visit them almost every day. I was looking forward to the moment when I would hand over my daughter to other hands, because mine already simply refused to serve me.
Due to the presence in the immediate vicinity of my grandmother (she works several hours a day plus remote work at a computer), I had and I have the opportunity to go to the store in a human way (and not to tack with a carriage between the shelves), to the salon, for a cup of coffee with a girlfriend.
Mom provided invaluable assistance during difficult periods. In 4 months, my daughter caught up with a terrible flu – an inviolable temperature of 40, a pressure of 60/40 and other amenities. In the middle of the night, the parents came from the dacha, transported us to themselves and isolated the daughter from me in order to avoid infection. Thank God, everything turned out well, the child was brought to me only for feeding.
This year I underwent two operations, one of which was with the hospital in the hospital. All this time, my mother regularly drove her daughter to the garden, gymnastics, fed, walked, etc.
Sometimes my husband and I leave our grandmother’s daughter for the night, and we ourselves spend time together in a cinema, restaurant, and other events.
The approach to parenting and child care
Like many grandmothers, my mother is a lover of caps and socks. But this addiction is by no means radical in nature – it is up to her to propose, and the last word always remains with me.
I have never had a chance when I regretted or scolded my mother for something — for example, the wrong food (and I heard scary stories many times about how a kind grandmother fed with cabbage rolls or herring a three-month-old baby), upbringing, attitude to her daughter.
Yes, I listen to her advice, explain to her the inexpediency of some of them, she adequately perceives criticism and no longer advises wiping children with vinegar.
I understand perfectly well that my mother should not and is not obliged to help me, and I am very grateful that she does it voluntarily and with pleasure. Of course, I would have managed without it, but it would have been much harder for me, I am sure of it.
Grandma is good, and such a grandmother, like my daughter, is a hundred times better. Appreciate your moms, watch your words and criticism. It is not a secret that the older a person is, the harder he perceives criticism, especially from his own person.
Do you want to do well – do it yourself – if you do not trust or do not agree with the grandmother’s methods of education, either hire a nanny, or give clear instructions.
And how do you communicate children with grandmothers?