The time comes when the children need to let go of themselves for the first time. This is a difficult test for them and for us, the parents. Let’s call it an exam for independence. I am talking about children and playgrounds.
My independent children
I have a lot of children, I’ll start with the older one. Although he is 10 years old, he is a very independent guy. He will look after the kids and help me if necessary. I let him go alone on a bike ride and drive a football game with friends. For him, I am calm, besides there is such a useful thing as a mobile phone. So the guy is under control and, sort of, independent.
Little children – 6 years. That’s about them just will be discussed. Until this year, I was always with them. Drove the handle, guarded against everything, too protected. In kindergarten they were not. Communication with peers took place only under my control and at playgrounds.
It seemed to me that they were not deprived of society, but I was mistaken. This year it became clear to me that children need friends more than their mother. And on the playground, they don’t need a mom, I hold them back in their simple children’s desires.
I’m still lucky. Everything that happens is not a playground, I can see from the window. So I decided on a desperate act and let the children alone to the site. There are many of their peers who also play alone. If their mothers let go, then why can’t I.
The heart was immediately thrilling. I ran every five minutes under various pretexts to check my children. And how they felt it – they told me to go home, they themselves wanted to play with the children.
I did not leave the window for several hours, watching the children. The eldest son put them overseers. They accepted him, and I calmed down a bit.
Children passed the exam on independence. They found a common language with other children, made friends. I watch them from the window and no longer worry that they will go somewhere or something happens to them. They can stand up for themselves, and they also know the way home.
I believe that at 6 years old children can already be gradually taught to walk independently. But again, I draw attention to the location of the playground. If I was lucky and I could see my children through the glass of the kitchen, then if the playground was closed from me, I would have thought whether to let the children go alone.
First, not all children are ready for independence at the table at an early age. I know families in which dad leads a 10-year-old daughter by the hand. And I know those in which the 5-year-old baby will shut everyone up for a belt.
Secondly, you need to understand the conditions for which you leave the children. On our site, everyone knows each other. Both children and parents. Therefore, even those parents who are on the playground, look not only for their children, but for the whole situation on the street.
The release of my children took place. I am very pleased. They adapted well in the children’s team of our yard, found friends and I had more free time.
And at what age did you start letting your children go alone to the street?