Children are afraid of many things. And the most tangible and understandable fear of parents – the fear of pain. We ourselves are afraid of her, so we can understand the child. But we know how to deal with this fear, but the child does not. How to teach a child not to be afraid of pain, especially when it is very important?
Where do fears come from?
The very first fear of pain in my daughter manifested itself, of course, when she was hurt. Rather, it was not so much the pain from the wound, as from the consequences of its treatment. It is relatively easy to handle. You can talk a lot about the importance of processing, but in practice you can immediately blow, hug, kiss.
It works, of course, not immediately, but you can agree. And recently, we have a new problem – there is a need to go to the dentist. After the clinical examination, it turned out that one of the molars was to be reorganized. I myself was surprised, although she complained to me a couple of times that food was being thrown into it.
At that age I already had a mouth full of rotten teeth, which at that time were treated simply: povysdergivali – and all right. Milk teeth, new ones will grow there, whole. But her daughter to six years, her teeth were perfect. I was happy, I thought, my grandfather’s genetics worked – in his whole life he went to the dentist once or twice.
In general, we were prescribed a visit to the dentist, which I told my daughter about. And then it began: No! Will not go! It hurts! Where did she get it – I do not know, her teeth have not yet been treated. I suspect that the children in the garden whispered. There are many problems with teeth. In general, while persuading to go to the doctor does not work.
What to do?
I have long assumed such a reaction. Therefore, in due time, when there was an opportunity, I took her with me to the dentist. I think that the child will see how the dentist works, how the mother sits and experiences it, what kind of sound the drill has, and that it is not at all scary. Mom’s teeth were treated under anesthesia, so it does not hurt at all.
But it was a long time ago and, apparently, was forgotten. Now I try to reanimate these memories, while not very successfully. I also talk about how to treat a tooth. At one time, she herself got rid of the fear of a toothache.
Sitting in line to the dentist, I imagined what was going on in my aching tooth, how all these processes affect my body, how they will develop, if not treat. My imagination is not bad, so I brought myself to the fact that I ran to the dentist as if it were a holiday – if only my teeth were clean and healthy.
Here, the truth, with the child this trick does not pass. So far, nothing else has come up with how to lure her to a doctor.
How did you handle it?