Usually both parents are involved in raising children. However, it seems to me that the role of parenting mother and father is slightly different from each other. So what is the role of the father?
The boy does not grow up a real man just because of the presence of the male body. He needs to see a decent example to follow. This does not mean at all that boys are inferior in fatherless families, they simply use older children, male relatives as an example.
It is useful for the boy to be alone with his father, to engage in purely male activities, to go for walks together, to have common interests and views on life.
In the development of the girl’s father plays a different, but no less important role. The girl does not seek to imitate her father, however, his approval and praise instill confidence in her. Her life priorities depend on the relationship of the daughter and father relative to men in older age.
The type of young men and men with whom she will be friends, becoming a girl and a woman, and especially the one she loves, her married life, the model of family relations will be largely determined by the relationship that she had with her father in childhood.
That is why the father should show the girl that he appreciates her opinion, respects her choices and decisions.
For girls, physical contact with her father is incredibly important – kisses, hugs that grow and nourish her self-esteem, so dads’ main task is to learn to be tender.
How the father behaves with the mother determines the scenario of the daughter’s future life. The main need of the daughter is kindness and kindness towards her. The behavior of the father of the daughter learns as a model of the correct male attitude towards women, his image often becomes her ideal, and in the future the girl unconsciously seeks a similar attitude towards her.
Usually, if the father works, his interaction with the child occurs in the evening. And most men are lovers of violent and active games, which contributes to the overexcitation of the child and restless sleep.
Try to incline your father to quieter games – reading books, creativity, quiet role-playing games.
Attention and gifts
There are cases when the father seeks to compensate for the lack of time spent with the child, with the help of material benefits. It seems to me that it is very easy to bribe children and that is why dad is associated with a holiday, or something.
Of course, mom is not good, mom pulls back all day, prohibits and grumbles, but dad comes home from work with a chocolate egg. Do not lose sight of this aspect, constantly remind you that both parents love a child, that the number of gifts does not depend on feelings.
Each family has its own rules. Someone plays the role of a good policeman mom, someone the opposite.
There is no clear hierarchy in our family, my husband and I often change roles, and most of the time both play the role of good;) I don’t know if I can do that, but I often use the phrase Daddy will buy when there is no time or too lazy to explain to my daughter the reasons I will not buy her another toy or other unnecessary thing. Usually until the evening she forgets about her desire.
Of course, the father’s role in raising a child is important. However, I believe that the role of the mother is still more significant, especially if the mother spends with the child 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Psychologists say that the child considers the child as an integral part of himself, while the father is the highest authority. The task of the father is to emphasize and cultivate male or female in a son or daughter.
What do you think is the father’s role in raising a child?