I want to touch on the topic that hooked me after such an incident. We walked, as usual in the park, my son began to play with the boy about his age. While the children were playing, a conversation ensued between me and the boy’s mother. When I asked if her child was talking, she answered negatively, but proudly announced that he (a child who is 1 year and 8 months old) knows almost the entire alphabet.
Such cases are not uncommon, but I think it is not quite normal. Just do not think that I am against education, child development, and so on. I also want my children to be smart, healthy, sociable, and everything went well in their lives. But the perseverance with which many parents torture their children suggests that they simply do not like them.
As an example, I want to describe another story. My friend, a speech therapist, told me that she had a girl in the group. The girl began to behave just terribly, screaming at the caregiver, fighting with other children, she had sudden mood swings, from sullenness to restless activity. When the psychologist was hooked up in the kindergarten, everything turned out to be simple, the girl’s mother decided not to raise a wunderkind at all costs, and after kindergarten she dragged her every day to various sections, and the child’s behavior was the result of constant stress.
And here I am watching how many mothers and grandmothers take their children from kindergarten and rush to classes, 2 classes after kindergarten every day. What it is, but by the very weak after the working day, work again. For children, even in the form of a game, the activity is also a mental process, and we all know that during mental work you spend as many calories as you do during physical activity. Moreover, there are classes that begin at 19.20. I once asked the mother of the girl who goes with my daughter to the younger group, as she began to list, it became scary for this child. Judge for yourself: razvalki 3 times a week, English 2 times a week, drawing 3 times a week, and besides swimming, dancing, they are in different rooms, you need to get to some by bus. And when does the child play?
But on the other hand, the requirements for the admission of children to school are frightening; children in the first grade must come with a solid store of knowledge and skills. So the question arises, earlier development – is it a tribute to fashion or a necessity? As far as I know, for children up to 3 years old, knowledge of the world is a game, and from 3 to 5 these are role-playing games. For some reason, there is a feeling that parents deliberately deprive their children of normal development, and impose their own.
Recently I found an article on the Internet where a pediatrician warns against early, excessive loads on children of preschool age, such children, although they are excellent students, but by the 6th grade they are morally tired of studying, and their indicators are drastically reduced. And yet, that torments me, we went to kindergartens, my parents took me to sports sections, our parents were not obsessed with early education, but all my friends and classmates have a higher education and are successful in life.
So I personally think that everything should be in moderation, we need both sports clubs and educational circles, and developmental activities. But most importantly, there should be loving parents who will be able to grow a healthy physically and morally healthy child in the first place.
I would very much like to hear the opinion of teachers, psychologists and mothers who simply love their children.