I think the topic of raising a child has always been and will always be relevant. From here – a variety of books and magazines, many articles and topics on the Internet, TV shows, programs and shows. It is the last I watch on TV. This famous show, with a leading psychologist, teaches a lot to both parents and children, I think.
In the programs there are different: misunderstanding between children and parents, jealousy, excessive guardianship. All over the country, people do not hesitate to talk about their problems, I would be so afraid, for sure. But they can be understood: they are sore, they are tired, and they are trying to find a way out. Although before looking at someone, you should look at your family from the side.
You know, we are all human. And everyone is prone to make mistakes. Alas, it is. Each allowed different errors. Someone in the care of the baby, someone in education. It is about education that I want to talk with you.
I think no need to explain that all children need attention? This applies to kids and teenagers. For babies and speech can not be. And so it is clear that they need a mother. Yes, it would seem, and teenagers are already formed personalities, with their habits, character, views on life and other people. But they also require attention, special. They do not need to take the pens, but you can kiss, ask about how the day went and what’s new.
I think the attention of the child should be enough. When he doesn’t get it, he is bored. A bored child is a baby with sad-sad eyes and a drooping look. And my baby was like this during my sessions and endless seminars. Now I understand all this perfectly. If possible, we go for a walk all together. And I equally pay attention to my peanuts.
Having given birth to a daughter, I hardly imagined what kind of education I should give her. Yes, she was tame, capricious, naughty. My daughter loved to indulge and, like every child, found adventure on a soft spot. That will fall, hit, then something else. I could scream and slap on the pope. No, I am not a harsh mother, and I did not beat my child, but if she did not understand with a word, she could strike a little.
The husband immediately ran to regret it. And this, I believe, is wrong. One parent beats and scolds, and the second regrets? Parenting should be the same, so that the baby does not distinguish between parents good and bad. If I decided to punish for pampering or Skoda, then it must be so.
Do I need to follow the tracks for a child? Of course, every good mommy loves her karapuz. But love is over the edge. Believe me, and kids should have their own personal space! Well, he does not want constant kneading and kissing, he wants, for example, to go for a run or jump on a skipping rope.
To guard and look after the baby is necessary, but within reason. For example, I was afraid for the baby when she started walking. Constantly falling, hit, she needed attention. Yes, I had to tag along. But not in 4 years! Now she is an adult lady, and she herself can look after her younger brother, as I watched her at that age.
Recently talked with a friend. Our girls are almost the same age. So here. Each, of course, has its own problems, its own work and cares. But in many ways we are similar: we are very worried about children. And not worth it. They will not remember our experiences, they will not remember the nights that we did not sleep well.
I came to the conclusion that children should be loved and respected. But do not forget about yourself. Mom should get enough sleep, find time to take care of herself, take care of her health, visit doctors in time. Being a mother is not a cross, it is happiness. No need to score on yourself.
And what mistakes you made? What can you advise?