Today I want to talk about the praise of the child. Is it really so necessary and is it possible to raise a child without her? I will answer immediately – it is impossible! Praising kids is as necessary as feeding and caring for them.
Do not forget to praise
So let’s start from the beginning. From the first days of life, little children seek to learn: to hold the head, roll over on the flank, and then on the tummy, sit down, stand up, take the first step, take a pencil in the pen and draw something.
We, the parents, treat these moments with special enthusiasm and joy, in every possible way praising our children. But, alas, in the course of time many people stop noticing all these successes in the lives of their children, and they forget about domestic matters that the child should be encouraged.
Literature to help
To help me raise my daughters, I read a lot of literature and articles and continue reading. And everywhere, no matter what topic the material is devoted to, one keynote: the child must be praised.
When I taught my eldest daughter to the pot, they told me that the most important thing, when she finally sits on the pot and uses it for its intended purpose, is beginning to be very happy and praise-praise-praise.
Children understand the language in which they communicate very well. If they feel bad – they cry, well – they laugh. As for the praise, there will be an appropriate place to recall the Mongolian proverb in a kind word – heat for three winters, and in evil – a frost for half a year.
If we want to bring something to our children, but there are not enough words, we must boldly switch to the language of emotions. Therefore, I accompany every success of my daughters with joy and praise.
There is not much rewards
I am not afraid to encourage my daughter more than she deserved. Let it be better for her to receive in advance than to receive less. Thus, I help her grow up a kind, self-confident girl.
I am an adult woman, and I will not hide that I myself am pleased when I am praised. This is an incentive! And our kind words and support are even nicer and more important for children than we are adults.
Let me give you an example: my child is sitting by paints on paper. Very often, kids go beyond the boundaries of the sheet and go to create on the table. If you start to scold – thus the whole rush to creativity and learning will be ruined.
And if you praise with words wow, what a wonderful artist you have! Yes, you even have little space for drawing, next time we take a piece of paper much more and you can draw a picture even bigger in size !.
And I will not scold her for soiled sleeves on her blouse and a table, but simply take the dirty clothes in the wash, and wipe the table with a damp rag. Indeed, in this situation, the most important thing is to encourage the child for his efforts.
Good word to help
My method of education is a kind word and praise. Yes, it happens, and I punish, and I can shout. But then I scold myself for it and try not to repeat it again.
Children growing up in a healthy atmosphere of peace, without everlasting reproaches and punishments, are much more contactable and obedient. And I want my daughters to be like that!