Many parents believe that the child is too small and not worthy of an adult apologizing to him. For me personally, this point of view is not entirely clear, because the child is the same person as everyone else, why shouldn’t he ask for forgiveness?
I do not believe that there are ideal mothers who never get tired, always stay in great spirits and never scold their children. Since the child is always with us, he is often the victim of our bad mood or unreasonable anger.
I have noticed for myself more than once – for example, it costs me to quarrel with my husband or something else will upset me, so I can vent my bad mood to my daughter. No, nobody beats her up and does not punish her in vain, but we talk less, I can answer her questions and requests with harshness, scolding me for a harmless prank that I wouldn’t even pay attention to at other times.
I always apologize for unfulfilled promises. For example, today, having started talking on the phone, I forgot to wave to my daughter, who was looking at me from the window. Without even thinking, I called back and apologized to her on the phone. It would seem a minor occasion for us, but for a child such small traditions matter – wave, look, wait, etc.
It is important to know not only the child, but also many adults – an apology is in no way a concession and not an indicator of weakness or diminished self-esteem. Everything is completely the opposite – the recognition of their mistakes characterizes a person as a strong personality with a sense of dignity.
And those who consider others unworthy of their apologies are at least selfish. Strange, on the one hand, we seek to raise an independent and successful child, and on the other, by unwillingness to apologize to him, we show his inferiority and inferiority.
Such behavior of adults is fraught with the fact that even in adolescence parents cannot wait for an apology from their own child.
The first thing I do is establish eye contact with our daughter on the same level. To do this, I either take her in my arms, or sit down in front of her. The second rule is a nice spoon for dinner. Here, as with the punishments, you need to act quickly. Otherwise, the child may harbor a grudge against the parents, which the adult will not even guess.
My daughter and I have a little ritual – when we apologize to each other, we will certainly embrace. For me, tactile contact with a child is very important.
Despite their age, every child deserves respect. And I am in no way ashamed to apologize to my daughter, on the contrary, I feel much better after admitting my guilt.
Apologies do not in any way drop our parental authority. Everything is mistaken, there are no ideal parents. And our children are the same people who deserve respect. By our example, we show that with the help of an apology one can partially resolve the conflict, reconcile and regain a wonderful mood.
Do you admit your guilt to the child?