Recently, my daughter and I stayed with my brother’s family in another city. Despite the close relationship, the approach to raising children in our families is completely different. And so, as they say, she found a scythe on a stone, during our week-long cohabitation.
For me, it is still a secret how parents manage not to go crazy in families with a large number of children. For example, my friend has four of them, and she had to cancel daytime sleep for everyone, because putting them at the same time is from the realm of fantasy.
But with the charter on guests do not go, it was necessary to reconcile. Although, when the guests were with us, we again adjusted our regime. Neither I nor my daughter are used to going to bed early. Honestly, at about 22 we only come from a walk in the summer, and there can be no question of a dream. After all, you still need to eat, wash and watch cartoons.
Everything suits me, because I myself rarely go to bed before midnight. Yes, and daytime sleep, we rather not at lunch, and in the afternoon – from two to five. And the rise, respectively, no earlier than eight.
Therefore, it was very difficult to persuade the child to go to bed so early. In the end, she still fell asleep late, and had to get up, like everyone, at seven in the morning.
We have no ban on sweets – they are always freely available, and her daughter knows that it is better not to eat more than one or two sweets per day. Honestly, I can even let her eat sweets between main meals or directly in front of them. After all, I know that if she promised to eat everything, she would do it.
For other parents, this approach of mine causes outrage, and their children have tears. Again, before bedtime, I do not forbid to get out of bed, if there is such a need. Itself such, then want to drink, then pickled cucumber to eat.
We usually have a loose breakfast – a biscuit or a sandwich with tea. This very morning I have enough of this food, and my daughter is so used to it. For other parents, this option is both harmful and not as nutritious as a plate of porridge, for example.
We have few bans – you can drink food with water, you can drink carbonated mineral water (even from the refrigerator!), Eat cotton candy and two servings of ice cream a day and even jump through puddles.
I do not beat the child, even when itching to do it. I have other ways to punish a child. I’d rather deprive the daughter of a good one than make her feel bad. Although in this regard, we agreed with relatives.
I am not a very strict mother, and my daughter knows this very well. I can promise in the hearts of the weekly deprivation of cartoons, and turn them on the very next day. I don’t want to waste time on resentment, punishment and bad mood, that I very quickly forget about my daughter’s disobedience, and we communicate like nothing has happened. Unfortunately, I rarely meet the similar behavior of parents.
I do not see anything wrong with going to bed later because of an exciting game or taking a walk on the street longer than usual, if the company is good. I do not refuse if my daughter asks for my phone or use a computer. It is optional to eat up to the last crumb. There are many other situations, attention to which can not be sharpened.
It seems to me that in the upbringing of children one should not be too strict and scrupulously adhere to the regime almost to the minute. Although it may be that someone is more familiar and more comfortable, who knows. But with preschool children, for me personally, the floating mode (plus / minus an hour and a half) is more convenient.
And how do you get along with families in which a different approach to education?