Playing with the child on the playground, you can see what a big difference between the children: shy, sociable, aggressive, kind, but among all the most pronounced are the demonstrative children. They attract attention, want to stand out from the crowd, waiting for praise and confirmation of their dominance. Being a demonstrative child is half the trouble, but to grow up as a demonstrative adult is a disaster.
Look at the child at the age of 3-4 years. This is the age of development of normal demonstrativeness. All children go through this process. They are no longer happy with the bright parts of the pyramid, but they are waiting for praise for having been able to assemble it correctly. It is necessary to praise the child, as it helps them to grow up with confident people, but do not overdo it.
At the age of 4-5 years, the child must enter a new phase of development: besides his own self, he must be able at this age to praise others and respect their achievements. If the child doesn’t see anything else besides himself, then this is a clear sign that the problem already exists and you need to deal with it before it’s too late.
The first thing that is needed in the fight against demonstrativeness is to stop praising for everything that a child does. In my group there was a boy who every time during dinner said that he eats better than anyone. At the same time, he, like all, ate with his right hand, his usual tempo and chewed like everyone else. Such a child’s behavior (together with others I read the best verses, tell a fairy tale, sing a song, etc.) is considered out of the norm of normal development. How to fight? Show that the baby eats the same way as the other kids in the group.
Demonstrative kids do something just for the sake of praise and dominance and choose all ways to do this, just to be the center of attention. They do not enjoy the process of drawing, since the most important thing for them is to draw in order to be praised and to confirm their unsurpassed status. We need to show them that the process of drawing, modeling or designing can be much more interesting than the result that can be boasted.
It is better to protect demonstrative children from all sorts of contests, where they choose the best, so as not to stir up an already competitive mood in their souls. Peers for them are not friends, but competitors.
Demonstration can threaten the health of your child. If he gets into a situation where there are no relatives near him who constantly praise him, he also fails before the eyes of the public, and a demonstrative child can shake up a nervous breakdown.
Everything should be in moderation, and when the child has a problem (busting with demonstrativeness), the task of the parents is to help him if they want to raise a healthy, successful and balanced person in the future.
It is too early for me to watch the development of demonstrativeness in my daughter, because she has not yet reached the age she needs, but after watching children in kindergarten, I decided to warn you about a similar problem.