I somehow reprimanded my husband for the fact that he doesn’t spend much time with her daughter, they don’t go to movie parks, or simply to the sandbox. She reprimanded, therefore, she left for work with a clear conscience, leaving his daughter to raise, and at the same time to realize the frailty of her existence.
Returned, and at home – silence. Calling: Where are you? Husband happy: Already under the windows. From the park go. I look out the window. And indeed, my household is walking. My daughter has an air balloon in one hand, ice cream in the other, and she herself … in PIJAMA!
This story happened about five years ago, but became in our family a favorite bike, over which we continue to laugh and now. But it was she who prompted me to think, and how would dad bring up children in an extreme situation when moms are not around?
Many young mothers believe that a child can be entrusted to everyone: grandmothers, kindergarten teachers, even nannies … But not fathers. Why? Because dad, in fact, is the same child who finds it difficult to understand that the second ice cream (like the second can of beer) is detrimental, not good.
In addition, men have a dulled sense of danger, a craving for various risks, moreover, they have little practice in dealing with the younger generation … Stop. Why do they have little practice? And all because we, moms, are sure that no one will bring children to the garden-school better than us, will not braid pigtails, will not feed, etc., etc. As a result, we ourselves unconsciously do not allow dads to actively participate in the upbringing of children.
Once I had to go on a business trip, the eldest daughter was 7 years old at the time, the youngest was only a year old, I’ll keep silence about my age. The trip lasted only two days, but during this time I realized that everything was not so bad, and our dad was completely trustworthy.
I was preparing for departure in advance. She put on clothes for children in any weather conditions, including a tsunami and a tornado, put everything on the shelves, put a sticker on each shelf. Cooked soup for two days. Wrote a list of what you can do, what not. And … left.
When I returned, I found absolutely happy and dirty children, as well as a tired but no less happy husband. Calculated the damage: some torn pants, soured soup, lost blue scoop. From the positive: the older one learned to ride a two-wheeled bicycle, the younger one learned three new words (although one of them was not entirely censored), and another red form appeared in our sand box.
I know many families where mothers refuse to communicate with their friends, do not go to theaters and cinema just because they have no one to leave the child with. Daddy child as a nanny, of course, no one considered. And in vain!
Yes, our dad (like millions of other normal dads) doesn’t care that his daughter’s color of tights does not match the color of the sundress, yes, he can forget about the soup and feed the children with dumplings. But! The more often he is left alone with our children, the more experience he has. And I understand perfectly well that a sudden business trip will no longer be a universal catastrophe for our family!
How do your husbands cope with raising children?