I have always believed that my children are very sociable and easy to get in touch with people. The eldest daughter likes to mess with her younger brother and children of his age. Feeling older, she can handle him. With peers, she is also interested. Especially with the boys: running after them, playing hide and seek in the yard and playing and going down the hill in turns. But the son …
You know, having given birth to him, I realized that he was not like everyone else, some kind of special child. No, outwardly, he is absolutely no different from his peers. Simply, he is calm, balanced, is on its wave. His look is so serious, like that of some boss or professor. And it is clear that he thinks absolutely not about everyday things.
He reminds me very much in childhood. As my mom says, my character. Well, at least something is mine! And then I began to feel like a surrogate mother. Externally, children – a copy of her husband, there is not one of my features.
I can not agree with the fact that my child is closed. But there is no particular desire to communicate with him, for example, with his cousin brother. And that is only 2 months younger than him. I think because my brother bit, scratched and pushed him, and he began to move away from him. These negative moments remained in his memory. Therefore, even a meter away, he does not let him in so that he does not bite.
Not all kids have the same appearance in the light. Someone comes in contact with new people and children, and some do not. My son does not pull pens to strangers, he is attached to me. Why did I teach him this, you ask? I have not taught. In addition, he was just used to being by himself. He loves to play alone, to co-ordinate the pyramids so that no one interferes with him. And I noticed that in many respects he is even ahead of his peers.
How to help the child in communication?
Of course, the child gets a lot of attention and communication from an early age in the family. Here and development, and education, and care. My son came in contact with me and my sister. But I did not limit myself to this. The family is a family, but it’s growing, but it may not be enough communication with children. I realized that the crumbs can not be closed at home. After all, he will have a kindergarten, school, university, team. And to the team and strangers, he should get used to, not be savage.
As soon as summer came, we began to visit the park more often. On playgrounds, the baby contacted other children. I noticed that his attitude towards them was friendly, trusting. He is a gentle boy, and so many use it. So it was with a cousin. It happens in the yard.
In conflict situations, I find out the relationship directly: who offended whom, why. I teach my son how to adequately get out of a conflict situation, to other children I say that it is impossible to offend the younger ones. It is necessary to make friends, share toys, put up, distinguish between permissible and unacceptable in a relationship. I think a child from a tender age should be taught to communicate. After all, he will join the society, where he still has a lot to do.
And you had such that the child was closed? How did you get out of this situation? What do you advise?
