I was thrilled by the comments in one of my last topics about the fact that it’s not worthwhile for girls to be led to boxing, that for them it is more adequate to spend time on the ballet. I decided not to enter into polemics there, but to put my reasoning into a separate topic.
Stroller – whose toy?
I immediately remembered how my godfather, who was raising her son, was once very indignant after a walk. The child was three or four years old. Children like to roll toys at this age. One of the most convenient devices is a toy carriage. Kuma bought her son, he drove with pleasure, and the older girls poked their fingers and giggled.
The perturbation was based on the fact that the boys at that age would be struck in the head, that dolls and carriages are girlish games, in which the boys are ashamed to play. And then, when these boys grow up and give birth to their children, they are ashamed to go outside with a stroller. Why am I like a fool to push a stroller?
Maybe from the part in the cuma she spoke insult to her husband, but I agree with her statement that it is necessary first of all to raise a child, a person, and only then to make allowances for the floor. But how boys should behave, how girls are children, they can perfectly see the example of parents, relatives and outsiders and aunts. Everything is copied in a matter of hours.
Boy with beads
And I also remembered the example from the book of the very child psychologist that I remember and quote all the time. She analyzed one example with a boy, although she was already a pupil of primary classes. The child had complete apathy towards everything. During the conversations it turned out that he was a phlegmatic person, and his mother and teachers demanded activity that was atypical for him.
The child spat on everything and went into himself. They began to find out what he liked to do when he was adequate. Mom couldn’t say anything special, but she remembered how, even at the age of three, he loved stringing buttons on a string. For this, the specialist clung, recommending his mother to give it to the bead club.
Mama for a long time could not believe that she was being offered this seriously. I had to persuade her for a long time that this occupation was not only for girls. But when she decided, the result surpassed himself. Moreover, the boy became friends with the same phlegmatic class and began to teach him to string beads.
Mothers of boys, when they saw their sons, weaving for a couple some baubles, quietly went nuts. But the child recovered emotionally. Especially since the boys easily made contact with the girls in the classroom. Rather, they themselves ran after them – friendship with such masters promised many beautiful decorations.
So, the moral of this story is as follows: initially it is necessary to rely on the temperament of the child, and not on his gender. The child must be helped to find the occupation that he likes, and not to limit it to stereotypes. My daughter and I will definitely go to the ballet, but I will also take her to boxing with pleasure. If only because she is delighted with such trips.
In general, choosing an occupation for girls and for boys, in my opinion, it is important not to become victims of stereotypes themselves. The main guideline in this matter is the child himself and his interests. It is so?