Anywhere you will not get to – in a family you do not always agree with your chosen one. When there are no children, then at any time of the day or night we have the right to find out the relationship or express our displeasure. It is quite another thing when a small miracle appears in the house – a child who should not hear a sound of the raised tones of the parents.
Finding out relationships with a child is not permissible – this is the rule! But do we always follow this rule?
My girlfriend’s neighbors
We were visiting with a friend and were about to leave. At 23:20, and behind the wall of my girlfriend’s neighbors, the most interesting part is just beginning – the showdown. Because of the thinness of the walls, we all hear well. The husband is going fishing, and his spouse is calling his chosen one to the country, where the garden needs to be put in order.
These neighbors, who did not allow others to rest easy at such a late time, have a three-year-old son. As you can see, they absolutely do not respect the child, since they allow to quarrel with him. Little was not heard at first, but after several loud obscene expressions and rumble, the baby behind the wall began to cry.
It is not difficult to imagine what kind of mood the child had, because all his peers have been sleeping and watching sweet dreams for a long time. Instead, his parents decided to show him an example to follow – shout, poorat mats, rumble, etc.
Gentle children’s psyche
The child’s psyche is a delicate matter that is easily hurt, after which it can develop in a completely different direction than necessary. If parents want to see their child healthy and positive, they simply have to restrain their negative emotions and not show them to the child.
I will say from my own experience: This is a difficult rule, but you should try !. When in my family relations begin to heat up or some question is not solved peacefully, I send the child to play in my room, turn on a cartoon or give it to my grandfather.
Thus, we are left with the husband and the problem alone, we can concentrate on its early resolution and do not hurt the tender childish psyche of our stupid adult problems.
Four years later, which my Nazar taught us to keep calm with my husband and not to shout out on trifles, he began to make comments to his grandparents, and even to distant relatives who did not learn to restrain emotions in the presence of a child.
A simple remark by Nazar: The family does not cry! – Proves that the child appreciates peace in our family. For a child, the family is the center of the universe. For the baby, the family should be a defense, not a battlefield.
If a person decides to give birth to a child, he is obliged to educate him, and therefore he must take care not only of the fullness of the child’s stomach and beautiful clothes, but also of the preservation and development of his inner harmony.