I do not know about you, but I often hear this phrase. Thus, it seems to me that children are justified, then they are given a special status. What, then, is the universal desire for equality and treating a child as an adult?
More than once I noticed for myself how I protect my daughter, while operating with this phrase. Well, she is still a child! To which I get a detailed answer (from mom or husband) on the topic that despite age, you need to learn to take responsibility for your actions, think about the consequences and, in general, the head – it is not only for wearing a hat.
Here I can not but remember the character of the Kid from the cartoon about the Barboskin family. Remember, what is his pitying, naive and ingratiating gaze? And remember how he skillfully uses it. But my daughter, this cartoon looks sometimes, and you don’t need to go far for an example.
Girls they are such girls! Somehow my girlfriend heard the conversation of my daughter with dad and could not refrain from commenting: Well, chanterelle! He says that it is simply impossible to refuse. I can not agree, it really works with our dad and the daughter uses it in the most impudent way.
On the one hand, it seems that it is necessary to be stricter, not to deviate from its principles of the educational process. On the other hand, we want our children to remain children longer, I want to pamper and allow them a little more than they can.
At this point, I am more categorical. We once witnessed a child breaking a bottle of expensive alcohol in a store. Yes, I know that, by law, the buyer is not obliged to pay damages to the store, but that mother is frankly rude to the security guard, while operating on this phrase This is a child, have a conscience, why are you unhappy?
Here, it seems to me, there is no difference, the child is guilty or not. As far as I know, in our stores, responsibility for such cases lies, nevertheless, on the store employees. But the responsibility for children’s behavior – on the parents of the child.
Sometimes it seems that children can do absolutely everything because of their age. Recently, I saw a child indulging in a cafe and climbed onto the table. Maybe for someone nothing special, but for me it is wildly indecent.
Mom’s reaction was predictable – This is a child! Mom reacted in a similar way to the request not to change the diaper in the restaurant. And I saw how the boy ran his hands in bags of cereals and sugar, which are sold in the store. This is, of course, a child, but I feel disgust.
Here I agree completely. It is necessary to take into account the children’s age during exercise, long walks, and active rest. Still, the child’s body is weaker than an adult, and excessive load can be disastrous for him.
This also includes food. Many products from the adult table children should not be consumed.
Summarizing the above, I realized that with children we are not as equal as we want it, or as we strive for it. Discount on children’s age can and should be done, but only on condition that it does not cause harm to others.
I can not remember another case that happened with my mother’s friend. A few decades ago, on the eve of the New Year, she cut off her daughter at home. Cropped hair resourceful girl decided to dispel the wind. Unfortunately, the floor below the neighbor put the cool sudochki with aspic for a feast. And it seems to me that the excuses of the mother in the form of This is the same child, that you will take a neighbor from him not very reassured.
And how do you evaluate the relevance of this phrase you?