It rarely happens that children constantly behave calmly and in a balanced way. I am constantly amazed at how quickly my daughter’s mood can change – even 5 minutes ago she was a calm girl, and now, now this is a screaming typhoon of emotions.
There are a lot of them, someone may get rid of fear, but in most cases it is an expression of the desire to get something or disagreement with the situation (refuses to go, do, put on, etc.).
How to respond to a tantrum is the choice of parents, and here you should be constant in your decisions. Ie, you either always react or never react. If your first option, then be sure you have a child manipulator. Although, I believe that the desired should be achieved in other ways.
Sometimes a distraction technique works well, but it is more suitable for smaller children, because a 4-5 year old child can’t be surprised by a running cat, for example.
Also, the ignore option works well. From the side, of course, it looks scary – the child is screaming, and my mother quietly continues to go about her business. But after a dozen of such situations, the baby begins to realize that his method does not work.
I prefer the conversation option – you should go down to the level of the child’s eyes (squat down or take the baby in your arms), ask about his emotions, impressions, hug, in the end. After all, hysteria can also be a signal that the child does not have enough attention, so he tries to draw it on himself in this way.
Obviously, a hysterical mom is more likely to have a child with a similar character. And if in your family emotional attitudes regularly occur, then the baby will consider such behavior as the norm and will behave accordingly.
If work on yourself does not produce results, then at least make it so that the child does not witness your emotional outbursts.
The worst thing a mom can do is to consciously try to get what you want with your tears, especially if you have a daughter.
Do not forget, the child is very difficult in our world. After all, there is often an overabundance of emotions, and desires that the baby cannot really express.
You should not go on about the child and instantly carry out all his whims, so long as the child does not cry. Explain that it is not always possible to immediately receive the desire. After all, today the cause of hysteria – a cheap candy, and with age, children’s needs tend to grow.
Teach children to articulate their desires and remember that they do not always coincide with the capabilities of their parents. And the final decision is always made by parents, not children. For example, I have a girlfriend who has the opposite. Recently, she had to go to the bank to get a salary, but she did not go there, because her son was not in the mood, he cried and refused to go.
And how do you cope with children’s tantrums?