Every time, sitting on a children’s matinee, I think that for some parents it is undoubtedly pleasant. But for others – stress. For some children it is joyful, for others … Even to utter a word is scary.
View from the outside
Probably among you there are mothers of those children who do not perform at matinees in all numbers in a row, and most of the concert is sitting on the chairs. Have you noticed that they often recite poems, play sketches, and tap the same children into musical instruments?
And well, if these are your children. And if not?
Once I had to put a question squarely about this in the garden. We rarely went to kindergarten, and before the Christmas party, I asked the teacher to give my daughter a poem. To which she replied: Why should I give you poetry? If a child wants to tell, learn a poem with him at home and let him tell.
I had to explain in a popular way: I didn’t have to go home, but had my daughter read from the stage. Moreover, nobody does it better in her group. But the teacher did not lose her. Referring to the fact that the matinee is preparing a fully musical director, she retired.
As a result, at the matinee, my daughter just sang songs and danced. And the blessing that she is dancing! Because some children did not even do this. While the kids especially loved moms did not leave the stage.
Here, it turns out a double-edged sword. It seems to be on the matinee should be happy and smile, looking at everything that happens. But on the other hand, why should parents enjoy children sitting on chairs? Are they worse?
What difference does a child gasp or whisper, rattling or speaking in a singing tone? The child must act for their parents, because it is for this that they came to the hall. Not to look at what other people’s children are doing, but to see what stage of development their baby is at. Is not it?
Really, distributing children’s roles at the holiday, the kindergarten workers do not care at all that an inferiority complex is formed in the child from the chair?
It seems that the little man understands nothing and feels nothing. In fact, inside his childish, I also want to speak and be the center of attention.
It is at this age that an understanding is formed that: I cannot, since I have not been appointed.
And all would be nothing, but from year to year, sitting on a chair in the shade, the child gets used to his second role. Yes, that there is the second. And if the last ??
Could it be otherwise?
I do not understand this craving for the smooth flow of the holiday. I do not understand why it is impossible to distribute all children with the same frequency in the performance?
If someone rarely comes to the garden, it does not mean that he does not learn the verses. Let him not dance, let him speak. If the second stutters, even if, on the contrary, he does not speak, but dances, knocks on a tambourine or rearranges the inventory. After all, kids are interested in being a member, not an outsider.
And you can do it! And it all depends on adults, on their interest.
I had to watch once how my beautiful daughter after an illness sat on the chair for most of the concert. The holiday for me turned into a reproach, a claim and tears. And what was he for his daughter, who did not smile and did not burn?
Educators do not openly explain their choices and behavior. They keep silent, because they have no pre-prepared answers to this question. What is it? If not devil-may-care attitude to kids?