Raising my child, I try my best to give only the best. And I clearly realize that for him the first example to follow is myself. Accordingly, I follow my behavior much more strictly than the sweet pranks of my child. And what was my surprise when the son gave the next misbehavior is not me.
I’m not lying to my son. I try to explain to him everything he asks about. Yes, not always specifically, avoiding sharp corners, but not lying. And – so brazenly, frankly and ill-conceived. Personally, my opinion – if you are going to lie (and it does not matter – for profit or for good or for some other important occasion), so be kind, lie so that you will not be caught later.
And here is what I see. On the banal question why the toy is broken? I’m not the answer. Moreover, after a second pause, a clarification of this is followed. Beauty!
And similar phenomena began to arise after the son began to regularly attend kindergarten. And well, if in the garden itself, children can blame or sneak on each other. But the fact that such behavior begins to smoothly enter into the everyday routine – this frankly does not suit me.
Not only that – I can still understand if the children lied in order to avoid scandal or punishment. But no – I never raised my hand to my son, and I try very hard not to raise my voice. The most terrible punishment that is now being applied is a ban on watching cartoons or a ten-minute idle in the corner of the room (a truly terrifying punishment, since you can’t stay in one place for more than a minute).
And still lies everywhere. At first it was just not me. Then it became all hilarious, and then turned into it itself (when I realized that slander at the cat does not work).
I, as I could, tried to tell the child that the toy itself could not break because it had no hands or legs (most, at least), and she herself move and break off unnecessary things (according to her son and , in fact, toys) details can not in any way.
But lies continues. Let it be so innocent and ridiculous. But how to stop, I just do not know. And the consequences may be the most unexpected. While I point my son to the fact that he is wrong, and for the committed actions you need to answer yourself. But, alas, my admonitions in one ear fly in, and from the other I immediately fly back.
What to do? The corner does not scare us anymore and the refusal of cartoons is a reason for a second chagrin, after which there is new fun. So how to deal with it?
In the garden complaining is useless. What can educators do? Hold a lecture for children and parents? They will, but only in vain. Each family has a different upbringing. And if I teach my son to always speak the truth and bear responsibility for my words, then some other child, for example, only sees parental scandals and quarrels at home from day to day. You never know …
Do your kids lie too? How do you educate? What measures are taking?