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Children’s immediacy and cruelty, preschoolers

I love my child madly. I will not say that I indulge every whim, growing up a real monster from a child, but I always wish to pamper my happiness. And I do not want my son to love me for expensive gifts or warm boots for the winter …

And sometimes it happens that the child shows exactly this behavior. I do not know how anyone, but I was faced with such a turn of events – she simply refused her child to buy a new typewriter, and in response you heard a bad one, I don’t like you anymore.

Mind I understand that he is not out of malice. I understand that literally in a minute he will silently come up, will take his hand again and will babble something about his eternal ships / cosmonauts / pirates and so on. That’s just the sediment remains.

It becomes very painful, insulting. And I always seem to be trying to rationally explain to him why I don’t buy a toy or sweets at his first request.

I tell you that I don’t have any money with me now, I agree in advance that we go to the store only for bread or try to offer my child instead of the expensive and unnecessary next truck / tractor and so on, new coloring, designer or other exciting utility (at least) .

The child always says what comes to his mind first, says what he thinks about. Yes, it is beautiful and charming. Children’s naivety, curiosity and frankness can not but be moved. I just remember one famous phrase the first three years of a person’s life to learn to speak, and all the following years to keep silent. Holy truth.

And the son very often expresses his opinion or asks questions where an adult would think twice about whether to open his mouth at all. And the child is not clear. And get the evil ridiculous insults and misunderstandings.
An elementary example is when the son blurted out for the entire minibus that the uncle had unzipped the trousers. And I was uncomfortable, and this poor uncle turned red.

And worst of all, when the son reveals with home, beloved and dear people. My beloved sulked at me for a while, when my son blurted out to him that you, uncle, had crooked hands. Yes, it was the case, once again cleared the table at her beloved, and once said in a fit of anger under her breath. And the son heard, remembered and blurted out at a convenient moment – when my faithful tried to fix another broken toy.

And there are a lot of such situations. And how to deal with them, I have no idea. I do not know how to teach a child to be silent – after all, everything is interesting, he is trying to find out, draws conclusions and immediately voices them. And he still does not understand that his words are being offended, and sometimes even hurt badly.

And I do not know how to convey this to him. I do not know what to do to make him understand
Cherish the insult, I understand, stupid, but those terrible words I no longer like you continue to hurt in my chest. And I would never allow myself to explain with a mirror, saying the same thing to my son – it’s better to bite the tongue right away.

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