Actually, my 5-year-old daughter Ksyusha is growing up pretty calm girl. But it so happens that she shows aggression. And, to be honest, child aggression is alarming and even scary. And I also noticed that such a manifestation of feelings scares my daughter: she starts crying and does not sleep well at night.
I decided to help my child get rid of aggression.
It seemed to me that my child, so beloved and adored, knows exactly how his relatives and loved ones love him. I didn’t even think about what the child feels not like adults. Adults and not always can recognize the indistinct manifestation of feelings towards themselves. And the children are even more so!
Despite the fact that we praise our daughter for achievements, she needs an elementary declaration of love. My husband and I began daily to tell Ksyusha that we love her.
We also began to show more physical affection. Pat on the head, and Ksyusha blooms! We always treated her well. But it turned out that it is vital to emphasize your love for the child!
I also noticed that Xenia likes it when I comb her hair and make a light head massage. She relaxes, a good mood appears.
My daughter has become much calmer. The aggressive state does not come to the child whom parents love and constantly show him exactly how!
Childhood experiences also manifest themselves in the form of aggression. But here, not everything is simple! We can not limit ourselves to questions about what the child has in kindergarten and what kind of relationship with peers in the yard.
We have a little secret. We chat like two girlfriends. Ksyusha talks about incidents in the kindergarten and in the yard. We view situations from different angles. Sometimes it turns out that there could be several scenarios, which could have been avoided, and something not allowed.
We have a little tradition – to retire in the evening in the room and whisper about ours, about the girls!
Attention parents also may be different. It seems to be trying to please his little daughter, buy her another doll. All girls at her age dream about such a doll! And the daughter turns away and even starts to behave aggressively. What is the matter?
It turns out that she was tired of dolls. For some reason, she wants to build a railway with her dad! Well, how can I guess?
We became more attentive to our daughter. We try not to miss any of her words and wishes.
Now we have no attacks of aggression! Complete mutual understanding!
Do your children show aggression? How do you deal with her?