When my unworthy husband left, he swore that he and I financially would not feel his departure. He will be able to live at a minimum, and will give us half his salary. The money that he promised me really should have been enough for the average living. But something I did not believe in these promises.
My husband has a peculiarity – he often confuses his fantasies with reality. Sometimes it says absolutely absurd things, and I see that I myself truly believe in them. It was the same with the promise to contain us. I understood that he simply would not be able to live on the money for which he was going on his own.
And his income is unofficial and unstable. There are customers, there is work, but in order for him to put himself in front of customers in the correct posture, they must bake him to life. Therefore, I did not believe in the promised fabulous incomes and immediately rushed in search of work.
And for good reason – my nearly failed me. No, I do not want to say that he left us in the lurch. Brings gifts for the holidays. Before my first marathon, I was specially led to choose good running sneakers. I took out a loan for my new laptop. In addition, every weekend we buy products for a couple of days.
But after all, my expenses are very diverse. And in terms of money, as I understood, we are provided by the residual principle – he has extra, gives. And no, well, so where did they get them? At first, he somehow tried to allocate $ 100 for us, then $ 50 each, and then summer came – the dead season for his work.
I, of course, proudly declare that I am not going to demand anything from him. Let him decide with his own conscience how to act. But it is good to state in a personal conversation. But in court, emotions and pride will not roll. There it will be necessary to name specific numbers and justify them.
We are not talking about this yet, but I somehow thought how can you at least theoretically imagine the amount of alimony that you need to demand from your husband?
In accordance with the law, their size will be about the same as he pays now voluntarily. Calculated on the subsistence minimum – 25-30% of it is taken. It turns out just 100 dollars. At the level of survival of this, of course enough.
And if you think about how much money is really spent on a child?
– payment of the kindergarten;
– payment of contributions to the parent committee;
– 1-2 times a year contributions for some large purchases in the kindergarten (we already bought lockers, now at our expense we buy beds, not counting the other little things that they demand from us);
– child nutrition (at least $ 150 per month);
– clothes (if everything, including pantyhose, is bought in second-hand, then it is possible to keep within the proposed amount);
– medications and examinations of the child in the event of illness (here the amount can sometimes vary significantly).
And this is not to mention the fact that the child needs impressions – trips to various places for entertainment, trips, sections or clubs. It turns out the amount is not at $ 100, but much more. I would also require moral damage – amid nervous experiences, my health passed down a lot.
I’d like to hope that this will not happen, but is it really possible to demand such a thing in court? Someone had the experience of upholding the financial interests of themselves and the child?