A visit to a psychologist is not surprising now. Apparently, the case in the trends of Western countries, where trips to this specialist are considered to be quite normal. But what could be the reason for thinking about visiting a child psychologist?
For some reason, parents tend to hide classes with a child psychologist. Part of the reason is that you do not want to have the appropriate mark in the child’s medical record. But these are also remnants of the past. Children who have mental disorders are patients of the psychotherapist, but the psychologist works with healthy children.
Recently, my girlfriend began to lead her son to a psychologist. I will tell you about the reasons and results in today’s article.
I never get tired of repeating that all children are different and the norms are a relative concept. But the following points should not be ignored: excessive aggression, an abundance of fears, problems in relations with peers and relatives, etc.
Repeatedly, Olya and I noticed that her son was withdrawn, silent and shy. One could write it off on character traits, but the fact is that such behavior in Misha was observed only in the garden. The rest of the time, everything was the opposite – hyperactivity, sometimes even aggression.
Year Olga had the idea of a visit to a psychologist. The problem was that the son was categorically against the clinics, and to get him there once again is a rather big problem. The decision came by itself – in the children’s center, where I work, there is an excellent woman psychologist. I introduced her and Olya, and they agreed on classes.
The first meetings usually take place in the presence of parents. It is important for the psychologist to clarify the situation in the family, the nature of the relationship between the parents. By the way, Olya’s family is absolutely ordinary – friendly, calm, conflicts are very rare.
At the first lesson, the psychologist asked me to bring Misha’s drawings and asked for permission to watch him, without designating her presence, in a neutral environment.
Meetings are held in a relaxed atmosphere, in the form of a game specialist is trying to identify the reason for this dual behavior of the child. Theoretically, such a conversation could have been held by parents, but in this case I had to dig quite deeply.
In communication, I often use the method of i-messages and voicing the emotions of a child. It turned out that a lot of reasons – and kindergarten, and the inability to realize leadership skills, and jealousy of the younger sister.
It would seem that everything is obvious, but to bring this obvious to the child, so that there is a result, only a specialist can. Of course, a class with a psychologist is not cheap (1 hour costs about 700 rubles or 200 UAH), but Olya saw the result after three visits. At each lesson one of the parents is present, and at home they try to continue the educational work in the same manner.
Do not be afraid of a child psychologist. Otherwise, problems, if they really exist, may come out in the future with a bad side – unwillingness to learn, conflicts between the child and the parents, etc.
In any case, the objective view of a child psyche specialist will not be superfluous. Olya was terribly worried before the first visit, and then simply flourished when the psychologist said that she had a wonderful son, who is well developed, and the problems in his behavior are easily corrected.
And how do you feel about child psychologists?